Anonymous Mom: I Don’t Believe In The ‘Post-Baby Body’
I am certain now that the idea of the â€œmommy bodyâ€ is another socially manufactured fable meant to make women feel bad about themselves. My â€œmommy bodyâ€ looks nearly identical to my other body aside from the fact my boobs are currently inflated and most days I havenâ€™t the time or ambition to get dressed. The whole world seems to have this idea that having a baby ruins your body and will make you eternally desexualized. I disagree. I am extremely sexy now, even with leaky boobs and throw up on my shoulder.
Like all the other evil ploys out there that manipulate womenâ€™s body image — the “post-baby body,” “pre-baby body” stigmata is dangerous and cruel. The worst thing is it is something that we allow ourselves to buy into because it is such a widespread idea. The impression that you canâ€™t bounce back easily from giving birth is what everyone wants you to believe. The worst part is, this is what we as women tell each other, like a campfire horror story.
I shake my head now knowing the reality of my own personal circumstances. When I look in the mirror or step on the scale today, I look exactly how I should look: like someone who had a baby a month ago but took care of herself. I was so afraid of this â€œmommy bodyâ€ that I had limited myself on what I ate and walked religiously every single day. Take note these are two things I never did for my â€œpre-baby body” — and now I look pretty much the same as I did before. Of course, things still arenâ€™t perfect, but they really werenâ€™t beforehand either.
I am actually willing to call bullshit on the whole “mommy body” thing. I am 100% confident now that there is no such thing as a “mommy body,” just bodies.
I look at my son and I am astonished that he was ever inside of me, that through the wonders of god and nature he was created — and now he is here and flourishing. It is truly fantastic how the female body is designed to endure the changes of pregnancy and birth. A new mom should never have to feel bad about herself; she should feel proud every single day.
I am 23 years old, and before I had a baby, I had low self-esteem days. I called myself fat, ugly, picked myself apart for no reason at all. Now I am 23 and I have a baby. I donâ€™t think things have changed overnight because body image is tricky. There will be good days and bad days. There will be days I feel gorgeous or days where I feel like crap. There will be days when I swear I am going to hit the gym and lose that last 10 pounds. Eventually, I wonâ€™t be 23 anymore — Iâ€™ll be an old woman still wearing the exact same skin and body I always had, and by then it probably wonâ€™t matter.
When that day comes, I probably wonâ€™t feel sad because I donâ€™t look like a young adult anymore. Iâ€™ll probably just be grateful for my body that created my son. That is the truth about my â€œmommy body.”
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