I Love My Baby Daddy, But Not Enough To Live With Him
â€œYouâ€™re funny,â€ my boyfriend/baby daddy said to me after I told him I could see myself living with him six days a week.
But I wasnâ€™t being funny at all. I was telling him the truth. I truly donâ€™t see how married people do it. In fact, I wish married people would speak up more often about how they live with someone every single day, hopefully for the rest of their lives. There are so many books out there on being single, but no books out there about the truth about marriage and how to live with someone.
I hate to admit this, but my ideal is that my boyfriend/baby daddy could live next door to me. Donâ€™t get me wrong: I love this man more than any man Iâ€™ve ever been with, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Itâ€™s just that I also want a break, at least one night a week. It isnâ€™t feasible, economically, for us to afford two houses next to each other. However, it is feasible that he rents a place, which he does, to be closer to his own childrenâ€™s school and so he can be there for their after-school activities. Even after we have our baby, I told him Iâ€™d pay for him to keep it.
As it stands, he sleeps there two nights a week, and I really look forward to those two nights a week. Donâ€™t get me wrong, again, I miss him like hell, but itâ€™s a good kind of missing, and after those two nights, I canâ€™t wait to see him again. But thereâ€™s something so glorious about me being able to get into my ugly sweats that I wonâ€™t see let me see me in. (As a side note, I always dress sexily to bed when Iâ€™m with him. Itâ€™s such a small thing and it makes him very happy. Just my tip to you ladies!)
Also I get to sleep in the middle of the bed, which I canâ€™t do if heâ€™s sleeping with me. I can also gorge on disgusting junk food in bed, like pizza, something else I wonâ€™t let him see me do. My married friends tell me that once I have the baby Iâ€™m going to want to have him around all the time. Iâ€™m like, â€œReally? Why?â€ With lots of family help, and a live-in nanny, could I not survive with a baby on my own for two nights a week?