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The ‘S’ Word Is The New ‘F’ Word – Let’s Talk To Our Kids About ‘Slut’

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A lot of parents don’t approve of their kids being sexually active. I can understand that. I’ve said before how I want my own children to have sex when they are mature enough to not only handle the responsibilities of sex, but mature enough to choose to have sex with someone they love and care deeply about. I’d like to think I can raise kids who that when they become sexually active, they are doing it using the proper protection and only doing it with people that they will know well enough to actually have positive sex with. I’m a mom, so I hate to think of my kids having sex, but if and when they do I want them to have happy, healthy, safe sex, and for it be joyous. Or at the very least, fun. The entire conversation about slut-shaming has little to do with sex, and more to do with degrading women and girls for assumed or perceived sexuality. I know there are some people who feel like if a woman behaves like a “slut” that she should be called a slut. To me, this type of logic is the same as saying that because a woman wears a short skirt, she deserves to be raped. And why are we making this judgement call anyway? Why do we feel the need to insult a woman even if she is promiscuous? Why are women raised this way, to feel like they can judge and insult  other women for having sex or enjoying sex when if a man does it, we congratulate him?

You can talk to your daughters about sex and what you own expectations are for them regarding sex. You can talk to them about what they can do to help a peer who is having sexual issues or problems with health and sex or behaving in a way that could be dangerous. But you also need to sit down with your kids and tell them why they can’t call other “sluts” either in person or online. For the last few cases I’ve written about regarding girls and social media and suicide, it seems like the word “slut” has played a pretty big part. This to me is a huge warning sign that we need to talk to our kids about how damaging it is.

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