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The ‘S’ Word Is The New ‘F’ Word – Let’s Talk To Our Kids About ‘Slut’

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I’ve talked before about how I am trying to raise the men in my home to be feminists, and not to degrade women. I have three boys of varying ages, including two teenagers. We talk about language, how words like “slut” aren’t just not allowed in our home, but why they aren’t allowed, at home, school, on social media, about how a word like this has no other purpose than to make a woman feel negative about herself, or her dress, or her sexuality. Even though I’m trying to do my part in raising three boys who won’t go out in the great big world and use words like this, this is only three boys in this great big world. And even though we are trying our best, as a parent I also know that there is always a chance that even though my sons nod and agree with me and we have open dialogues about the semantics of language and why certain words shouldn’t be used, they could easily be calling every female they see a “slut” either verbally or internally, in their own minds. I’d like to think my boys aren’t like this, but I’m not naive enough to think that my own children don’t engage in behavior I wouldn’t approve of behind my back.

My daughter is too young to have the slut talk, and yes, the slut talk includes the other words that are used as insults towards women, the “bitches”, the “whores”, the “cunts”. She knows that we don’t use certain words, but she is still at an age where I feel she hasn’t been exposed to these words, at least in a social setting or at school. Even though we try and be protective over the media our kids are exposed to, I’m sure she’s encountered a bitch or two or 12 on occasion, because this is the world we live in. And when she is a bit older, it’s an extremely important conversation that we need to have with our girls, because girls are behind a lot of this slut-shaming. I think the majority of parents talk to their kids about bullying, about teasing, about how they can act towards others and how they can act if they see someone encountering this sort of behavior from others, or if it is directed at them. I’m just not sure a lot of moms sit down with their preteen and teenage daughters and explain to them why we don’t call other women sluts.

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