Are You There, Moms? It’s Me, Idiot What Makes You Jealous Of Other Parents?
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Can you all indulge me for a second and talk to me about jealousy?
I know that jealousy is a pretty ugly emotion, and it’s something I’ve unfortunately felt in various periods far too often in my life. I covet people’s nice things, their shiny hair, fancy apartments, well defined calf muscles, cool jobs, or seemingly easy lives, which is a waste of time. The notion that people have nicer, better, shinier lives than I have is always based entirely around some superficial observation, even though I know that’s far from a complete picture of the truth. I know the grass is always greenerâ€“at least in the rational part of my head.
But the irrational part of my brain is unfortunately occasionally louder than the rational part, which means I spend all too much time seething and not enough time caring about things that matter. I can’t be the only oneâ€“tell me you all get jealous, too. Tell me I’m not the only petty one over here. Please?
Given the undeniable struggles of being/becoming a parent, I would imagine it’s pretty damn difficult to watch people who look like they don’t struggle at all. So what gets you going? People who have more resources (money, cars, childcare, a bigger house)? People with healthy children, who will never have to go through what it’s like to raise a child who’s chronically ill? All parents, in general? Let me have it.
Photo: Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret