Childrearing

Stop Being An A**hole And Have Some Sympathy For Kids With Food Allergies

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Let me get this straight: I’m supposed to feed my kids processed, preservative-laden food because your kid has a wheat allergy? No. I don’t want to. I want my kid to have the made-from-scratch cupcakes, the ones made with fresh butter, sugar and yes, real flour with real gluten in it, and not a commercially prepared cupcake that has an ingredient list a mile long. How could that possibly be better? Not to mention that commercially prepared items are expensive.

I’d like to again point out that we are talking about a class party. We’re talking about food that doesn’t even need to be there in the first place. Yay for class parties and everything, but were any of you adults out there so overwhelmed with joy that you got to eat a cupcake in class that you’ve carried that memory into adulthood? Because I have absolutely no recollection of some stupid class snacks impacting my life in any way. I would probably remember always being the one who couldn’t have something, though. Or being made sick by a cookie my seven-year-old self didn’t have the willpower to resist.

I don’t want to give her post any more energy – but the reason I thought about it at all is because of something that happened to my friend last week. She posted something on Facebook about the mothers of some friends of her daughter with Celiac actually throwing gluten free birthday parties (in their homes!) so that her daughter, for once, wouldn’t feel left out. Imagine – your child has Celiac and a parent throws their kid a party that is gluten free, just so your child doesn’t have to feel left out.

This means my friends daughter can go into this party and eat everything everyone else eats. This probably doesn’t even seem like a big deal for those of us who don’t have to deal with food intolerances on a daily basis – but can you imagine constantly needing to tell your grade schooler they couldn’t have something that everyone else got? Can you imagine having to trust that your child could have an iron will around these snacks because you wouldn’t be there to make sure they didn’t make themselves totally sick?

I can’t.

I know it’s easy to write off parents with kids who have different food intolerances and issues, because we simply don’t know what it’s like. But thank the universe for people who are still willing to take an extra step to make someone else feel a little bit of relief – and make a child feel like she fits in in a setting she normally wouldn’t.

I want to be the human that thinks about other people and makes them feel important. Not the one who throws a tantrum because her son can’t eat a cupcake.

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