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Despite The Fact He Murdered Numerous People, Ryan Lanza Misses His Brother, Adam (UPDATE)

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**BREAKING NEWS** Ryan Lanza, brother of Sandy Hook Elementary mass shooting suspect Adam Lanza, is seen in these photos pulled from his Facebook page


Ugh you guys, I was duped by the NY Post! And it wasn’t just me, most major news outlets have reported the same story, including The Telegraph.UK.

UPDATE:A spokesman for the Lanza family says an imposter is behind Ryan Lanza’s Facebook page and that Ryan did not post the messages in this story.

So the following news account is not true. I am sure Ryan Lanza feels terrible for the victims and the loss of his family members, but now sources claim he did not make the statements originally quoted. Someone is pretending to be Ryan Lanza. Sheesh, Merry Christmas. That poor guy.


My heart breaks for Ryan Lanza, brother of Adam Lanza who was incorrectly identified as the Sandy Hook mass murderer before police discovered it was his younger brother Adam who went on the killing rampage. He has lost his brother, he has lost his mother. He has to live knowing that his brother killed many innocent people. His name will forever be associated with his brother. From the NY Post:

Newtown killer Adam Lanza, who shot dead his mother, six other adults and 20 children, is badly missed by his brother.

“I am a victim,” Ryan Lanza, 24, told The Post yesterday in a Facebook chat. “I loss [sic] my mom and brother.”

In a Facebook photo tribute, Ryan Lanza shared a smiling image of his younger brother, Adam, lounging in a long-sleeved shirt and a pullover tee.

“R.I.P.,” he wrote.

“I will miss you bro. I will always love you as long as I live,” Lanza posted.

“I miss you mom. I love you so much. You will be always in my heart,” he wrote.

It’s a tragic gift that Adam Lanza killed his mother Nancy. I don’t know how a parent could survive if their son committed a crime like this and then killed himself. If it were my own son I couldn’t go on. It would be a crushing, relentless, second by second sense of “mommy guilt.” I think she is probably lucky she is dead. Maybe she could have lived her life and gotten years and years of therapy and had gone on to help the victim’s families, but if it were me, I couldn’t even breathe.

Ryan has joined a few groups on Facebook that are associated with the Sandy Hook massacre.

On Lanza’s Facebook page, one poster wrote that Adam Lanza deserved to “rot in hell” and was the “scum of the earth.”

Ryan Lanza responded sharply to the post.

“I am so tired of people blaming me for something my brother did. I love Adam, his [sic] my brother,” he wrote.

“But you have no right to call my brother names when he isn’t here no more. Just let my brother rest in peace. Please. Respect that.”

I hope Ryan Lanza is getting the help and support he needs in dealing with his own sense of sanity after the tragedy. I’m sure he spends a lot of time wondering if he somehow could have prevented this or if he could have saved his brother from doing something like this. When we remember the victims of Sandy Hook, we also need to remember those affected by this act who are still alive, who are victims just by the fact that they were related to Adam Lanza.

(photo: pacific coast news)