The Thought Of The Family Bed Makes Me Want To Punch My Kid In The Head
The family bed is the exact opposite of how we function in my family. I have literally never slept with either of my children, not even a nap. I have nothing against the concept of the family bed and attachment parenting, but I do have uncontrollable fear fantasies triggered by the relentless SIDS campaign.
I’m also a very light, picky sleeper. If my husband even gets close to me on my side of the king bed, I kick him hard in the leg, while I pretend that I am still sleeping. I’ve got Jimmy Legs when I sleep, what can I say?
The thought of a baby in a bed with meâ€¦ It just would never work. I love sweet, fat, rolly little babies, but I don’t want them rolling all up on me in the middle of the night. From the very first day that both of my kids were born, they were put into a separate bassinet or crib. I gave birth in a birthing center and at home, so my kids were both at home right after birth.
I know it is a huge pain to get up in the middle of the night and feed a baby, after which you have to lull yourself back to sleep. During that initial six-month period with multiple night wakings, I was a nervous wreck. We kept both of our kids in a separate room, and after waking up to feed on my shift, it took 20 minutes to an hour to get back to sleep. It was the worst.
I don’t know if a family bed would have been better for us because I never tried it. I can only imagine from what I have read online that the space sharing would have kept me up even more in the nightâ€”I would have been afraid to move or even roll over in fear of waking or smushing a baby.
And then there’s the issue that some parents talk about: Kids that enter your bed and refuse to ever leave. I’m sure that in the future one of our sons will want to sleep in our bed if he has a nightmare, and I’m perfectly okay with that (I think).
All I can say is that for now, with two kids under two, I’m happy with the way everything went down. I never allowed my babies in my bed because I’m a sweaty, selfish sleeper. Now both kids are sleeping well through the night in their own cribs, and I’m going to enjoy it for as long as it lasts.