Polyamorous Mom: I Don’t Feel Weird Removing My Wedding Ring When I’m With My Boyfriend
What I find interesting is that lots of people will give you the line â€œI could never take mine off!â€ and not just monogamous people.Â Â On a poly forum I frequent online there was a whole discussion surrounding wedding rings and a lot of people seemed to think it wrong or dishonest to take them off. Even speaking with another partner of mine, a more recent friend with benefits, he seemed surprised that Allan and I removed ours at times.Â I donâ€™t see it as leaving any of my love or devotion behind, but a minor social trapping itâ€™s easier to deal without.Â When Iâ€™m out and about with Allan, theyâ€™re on and people know weâ€™re married.Â When Iâ€™m gallivanting with Jim theyâ€™re off and we are seen as a couple.Â Â I get that I donâ€™t HAVE to care about other peopleâ€™s perceptions, but I do and Iâ€™m ok with that. I like to look nice, I like my kids to be well groomed and well mannered (not that they always are) and I like it to be known that Iâ€™m with the guy Iâ€™m with.
Next week Jim and I are double dating to a Â party with Allan and his girlfriend Holly.Â I suppose, neither Allan nor I will wear our wedding rings.Â Even though weâ€™ll be there together, romantically that night Iâ€™ll be with Jim and heâ€™ll be with Holly.Â Whether we are together with our partners, or apart with our rings off in a drawer, we share a bond of love and commitment and nothing, especially not the placement of jewelry, changes that.
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