Michelle Obama Revealed A Heartbreaking Miscarriage Over 20 Years Ago
Man, is it hard not to miss the Obamas. The former President and First Lady have kept a fairly low profile since Barack Obama left office in January 2017. And they certainly deserve the break! But with the current state of affairs, we long for the days when the Obama family occupied the White House. Luckily for us, it looks like Michelle Obama is going to be spending more time in the spotlight. Her new memoir, “Becoming”, is slated for release on November 13, and she’s making the media rounds to talk about the deeply personal book. In an interview with Good Morning America‘s Robin Roberts, Michelle got very candid about some very deep issues.
Michelle Obama revealed that she suffered a miscarriage 20 years ago that left her feeling broken and discouraged. In her book, she also reveals that she and Barack turned to fertility treatments to conceive Sasha and Malia. And she talks about how hard marriage can be, even one as seemingly perfect as the Obamas have. It’s definitely a side of her we haven’t seen before. But seeing her talking about these issues will undoubtedly help so many women.
We all know Michelle Obama as a strong, capable woman. But there’s so much we didn’t know about our forever First Lady.
Michelle Obama on her miscarriage 20 years ago: “I think it’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.” pic.twitter.com/STuPcGjBDz
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Michelle and Robin talked about the devastating loss Michelle suffered 20 years ago. She says, “We were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well. We had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.” Even though we don’t talk about it enough, miscarriage is incredibly common. Chances are, we’ve all been touched by it, either personally or peripherally.
Michelle really nails the stigma surrounding miscarriage when she says, “I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them. We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.”
Michelle Obama also reveals that she and Barack eventually turned to fertility treatments to start and grow their family.
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Home has always been where our family is…It hasn’t mattered whether we’re lounging on a couch in Chicago’s Hyde Park or, as we are here, in the White House. We did our best to make the White House a comfortable place where our girls could climb trees and host slumber parties, where we’d have dinner together as a family, and where we tried to live by the values our parents instilled in us.
According to the Associated Press, the Obamas used in vitro fertilization to conceive Malia and Sasha, and were able to have the family they both dreamed of. Michelle says she hopes that by talking out her experiences, she can help other women understand that it can be a real challenge to get pregnant naturally. After struggling to get pregnant in her 30’s, she began to understand how much age limited her biological abilities. She told Robin Roberts, “I think it’s the worst thing that we do to each other as women — not share the truth about our bodies and how they work, and how they don’t work.”
Perhaps the most surprising revelation was about her marriage to Barack.
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You can’t tell it from this photo, but Barack woke up on our wedding day in October, 1992 with a nasty head cold. Somehow, by the time I met him at the altar, it had miraculously disappeared and we ended up dancing almost all night. Twenty five years later, we’re still having fun, while also doing the hard work to build our partnership and support each other as individuals. I can’t imagine going on this wild ride with anybody else.
They seem to have the perfect marriage, and in many ways, they do. They love and respect one another, support each other, and encourage and challenge each other. But it hasn’t always been easy. And it won’t always be easy! Michelle told Roberts that the couple went through marriage counseling earlier in their relationship. She says, “Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences. I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them. And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”