Itâ€™s Okay Hilary Duff, Iâ€™m A Mom And A Smoker Too
My personal opinion is that like a lot of mothers, Hilary Duff â€“ who was recently caught holding a cigarette â€“ is a liar. Duff was trending a couple days ago because the new mom was â€“ gasp! â€“ holding a butt. People, it seems, are mad at her because not only was she caught with a butt in hand but also sheâ€™s a new mother, which somehow makes this habit worse. Quite frankly, everyone Iâ€™ve ever interviewed in the entertainment industry smokes. (I wonâ€™t out them, but letâ€™s just say most A-list actors do smoke.)
Duff apologized for it and insisted she was holding the cigarette for a friend. â€œIt looks worse than it is,â€ she said. Honey, itâ€™s okay. You were caught smoking. Just say youâ€™re trying to quit. I pretty much think/know sheâ€™s a liar because no smoker in his or her right mind would give a cigarette to a non-smoker to hold. Why? Because generally speaking, non-smokers hate smoke, and smokers understand this and would stamp that cigarette out before even thinking about asking a non-smoker to hold it.
I know this because I, too, am a part-time smoker. I am not proud of this. In fact, I hate myself every time I light up. Starting to smoke was the worst thing I have ever done, especially since I started smoking in my twenties, which is way past the time anyone with half a brain should start to smoke. Would I ever give a cigarette to a non-smoker friend to hold? Absolutely not. In fact, half my friends donâ€™t even know I sometimes like to smoke. They have no clue, and theyâ€™ve known me for years.
But I have another group of friends â€“ all mommies â€“ who do know I smoke, because they smoke, too. Sometimes, I feel like my house is a daycare for smoking mommies. But, like Hilary Duff, no mother I know wants anyone to know she smokes. Because I have a backyard with a high fence that blocks anyone from seeing in, I have a rotating group of mommies who come to my house, not really to see me, but to use my backyard to smoke in privacy.
I have a couple mommy friends who come in the morning, after they drop their kids off at school. This is my morning group of mommy smokers. Then I have another couple friends drop by late in the afternoon, before they have to pick up their kids from school, to smoke. Finally, I have a night crew who comes by after they put their kids to bed. I really should start charging them an entry free, because I could make a lot of money.
Sometimes Iâ€™m not even home, but they have the code to my backyard, and I have an open door policy for my â€œsmoking mommy friends.â€ Smoking is a disgusting habit. And yet, I know so many mothers who smoke. â€œWe need to smoke because weâ€™re the ones who are stressed out!â€ said one of my smoking mommy friends the other night. She never smokes during the day, and only smokes when her kids are in bed and asleep. (Sheâ€™s part of the night crew in my backyard.)