{"id":96327,"date":"2013-08-13T13:00:49","date_gmt":"2013-08-13T17:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/?p=96327"},"modified":"2023-08-02T03:02:51","modified_gmt":"2023-08-02T07:02:51","slug":"pain-meds-kidney-stone-labor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/pain-meds-kidney-stone-labor\/","title":{"rendered":"My Fiance’s Kidney Pain Earned Him Better Pain Meds Than My Labor"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201dI feel like I\u2019m in labor,\u201d he moaned, lying on a neighbor\u2019s lawn. \u201dThis is the worst pain in the world.\u201d<\/p>\n

I actually laughed. Before my baby came out early, a year ago, I actually DID go into labor. (I\u2019m one of the lucky ones who can say that I have had c-sections AND labor pains.) When people ask me what my labor pains felt like I simply say, \u201dIt\u2019s the most painful thing you could ever imagine.\u201d So I didn\u2019t, I\u2019ll admit, take my fiance\u2019s pain that seriously, even though he was on a neighbor\u2019s lawn and had started to throw up.<\/p>\n

\u201dShould we go to the hospital?\u201d I asked. I helped him get home, before the owner of Roots, whose lawn he was puking on, called their security. Even while I was in the back of the ambulance with him, I couldn\u2019t believe he could compare what he was going through to LABOR, which is what he had started moaning again. When we got to the hospital, it was pretty clear to everyone immediately that he was having or passing a kidney stone. Kidney stones are VERY painful, I’m told.<\/p>\n

What really got me was the treatment he received in the hospital. We weren\u2019t in the hospital for more than five minutes when he was hooked up to an IV and the nurse was saying, \u201dI\u2019m going to give you some morphine now,\u201d to my fiance, who was walking around the room, moaning LIKE a woman in labor.<\/p>\n

\u201dI can\u2019t get comfortable,\u201d he kept saying, which held up the nurse from putting in the morphine. She stood by patiently waiting for him to stand still.<\/p>\n

Two thoughts went through my mind. The first was, \u201dJust sit still so she can give you the drugs!\u201d and, \u201dYOU\u2019RE JUST GIVING HIM MORPHINE, LIKE THAT?\u201d<\/p>\n

Now, I like my drugs, when needed. After my c-section, I screamed bloody murder to the nurse when she told me I could only have Advil.<\/p>\n

\u201dI take ADVIL for headaches,\u201d I screamed. \u201dI just had my stomach cut open!\u201d<\/p>\n

The nurse with my fiance, in the hospital over the weekend, whispered to me, \u201dMen can\u2019t handle pain as well as women.\u201d I laughed, like I was supposed to, but I was really pissed off. So if ALL the women having babies were men, then they\u2019d get the good stuff and be treated like babies? I am a woman. I cry when I stub my fucking toe. Apparently, if you are a man and in pain, really no one wants to deal with you, so they give you the good stuff right away (something a volunteer at the hospital told me).<\/p>\n

All the nurses catered to him like he was in labor or treated him as they should treat all women in labor. They really babied him and they weren\u2019t rough with him, like the obstetrician on duty when I was in the hospital who before I could say, \u201dWhat are you doing?\u201d or even, \u201dYour name?\u201d had shoved his fingers up my vagina. I know that\u2019s what they are SUPPOSED to do, but, really, TELL ME BEFORE YOU ARE SHOVING YOUR HAND UP MY VAGINA LIKE YOU\u2019RE DIGGING FOR GOLD.<\/p>\n

Everyone all women nurses told me that kidney stones are extremely painful. I wanted to ask, \u201dReally? As painful as labor and a c-section? I just want to check so when I have this argument later with my fiance I know what to say.\u201d<\/p>\n

The doctor sent my fiance home with enough painkillers that I considered how much money we could make, if instead of him taking them, we sold them on the streets. In the meanwhile, I\u2019m thinking of baby names for this stone. Because it\u2019s gotten so much more attention than I did, when I was ACTUALLY in labor, so it really deserves a name.<\/p>\n

(photo:\u00a0\u00a0cupcakeenvy<\/a>)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t think anyone should EVER compare any kind of pain to labor, because no one — except mothers…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":20806,"featured_media":96329,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[42],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":4,"label":"Pregnancy"}],"post_tag":[{"value":42,"label":"childbirth"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/08\/kidney.jpg",480,500,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Rebecca Eckler","author_link":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/author\/4dc311198cf6d\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":4,"name":"Pregnancy","slug":"pregnancy","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":4,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn how to combine pregnancy and good health. Get the best good health, pregnancy tips for women, advice trends & info\r\n","parent":0,"count":2199,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":4,"category_count":2199,"category_description":"Learn how to combine pregnancy and good health. Get the best good health, pregnancy tips for women, advice trends & info\r\n","cat_name":"Pregnancy","category_nicename":"pregnancy","category_parent":0}],"tag_info":[{"term_id":42,"name":"childbirth","slug":"childbirth","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":42,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":216,"filter":"raw"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/96327"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20806"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=96327"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/96327\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/96329"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=96327"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=96327"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=96327"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}