{"id":71193,"date":"2013-01-12T15:00:45","date_gmt":"2013-01-12T20:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/?p=71193"},"modified":"2013-01-12T15:02:56","modified_gmt":"2013-01-12T20:02:56","slug":"all-rapes-are-brutal-even-the-steubenville-case","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/all-rapes-are-brutal-even-the-steubenville-case\/","title":{"rendered":"As A Human With A Vagina, I’m Here To Tell You That All Rapes Are Brutal, Period."},"content":{"rendered":"

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I debated that in essence all rapes are brutal. Mr. Stranahan does not agree with me.<\/p>\n

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It’s never women who argue these linguistic points. I have never seen or heard of a woman express to another woman “Hey, my rape was worse than yours.” Women don’t play the one-up each other rape game. And I have also never seen a male victim of rape go around \u00a0debating whether or not rape is brutal.<\/p>\n

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So, okay, if Lee knows rape victims who claim their rapes were not ‘brutal” than what word are they using to describe their rapes? The antonyms for brutal are “gentle” or “compassionate” and I cannot think of one case where I have ever heard a rape victim describe their experience as a “compassionate rape.”<\/p>\n

The sad fact is, there are many people who agree with what Stranahan says. And they argue semantics in order to make a point all under the sneaky guise of victim-shaming. Steubenville’s Jane Doe didn’t end up dead or disfigured due to her rape so it was no biggie, right? The media is just sensationalizing the alleged rape of a young girl by calling it “brutal.” All rapes are brutal. All water is wet.<\/p>\n

We need to stop negating the experiences of victims by deciding what adjectives can and cannot be used to describe rapes. It doesn’t matter if they were raped by a stranger or a family member or a spouse or a friend or acquaintance. It doesn’t matter how old they were. It doesn’t matter if the victim was drunk or on drugs or at a party or a prostitute or coming home from the movies<\/a>. All rapes are brutal.<\/p>\n

And if people can start to understand this very simple point, maybe we can work on finding ways to stop or at least curb the instances of this brutal crime.<\/p>\n

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