{"id":125289,"date":"2014-05-02T16:00:17","date_gmt":"2014-05-02T20:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/?p=125289"},"modified":"2014-05-02T15:34:35","modified_gmt":"2014-05-02T19:34:35","slug":"mother-explains-to-friends-without-kids-why-she-cant-hang-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/mother-explains-to-friends-without-kids-why-she-cant-hang-out\/","title":{"rendered":"This Video Is The Reason Childfree People Think Moms Are A**holes"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/Screen-Shot-2014-05-02-at-3.14.48-PM.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-125295 lazyload\" title=\"to-my-friends-without-kids\" alt=\"to-my-friends-without-kids\" data-src=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/Screen-Shot-2014-05-02-at-3.14.48-PM-238x200.png\" width=\"238\" height=\"200\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 238px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 238\/200;\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-125295\" title=\"to-my-friends-without-kids\" alt=\"to-my-friends-without-kids\" src=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/Screen-Shot-2014-05-02-at-3.14.48-PM-238x200.png\" width=\"238\" height=\"200\" \/><\/noscript><\/a>A young, adorable mom of two made a video to try to explain to her friends without kids why it&#8217;s so difficult for her to keep in touch with them. I think her intentions were good and it was done in fun, but the message is awful. It&#8217;s basically &#8211; &#8220;I am a mom so now I have no time for anything but my kids,&#8221; with a bit of &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/facebook-user-sends-anonymous-note-to-childfree-friends\/\" target=\"_blank\">you&#8217;re childfree so you have endless resources and time<\/a>&#8221; thrown in for good measure. Videos like this cast parents in a really self-absorbed light &#8211; covered in cheese and children.<\/p>\n<div class=\"entry-content-asset videofit\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"FRIENDS WITHOUT KIDS\" width=\"720\" height=\"405\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/36OKi1DRgoA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/what-parents-and-childfree-people-hate-about-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\">I&#8217;m a mother of two very small children <\/a>&#8211; a 10-month-old and a three-year-old. Saying that my life is hectic would be an understatement. Sometimes it&#8217;s really hard for me to keep up with my friends &#8211; but I do my best. Thanks to social media and texting, I can usually make sure that I keep as well connected as possible. I sympathize with this woman juggling kids and picking cheese off the floor &#8211; my life looks like that, too. I am occasionally jealous of my own pre-child self, if you can believe that. But I chose to have kids &#8211; and whether or not I realized what a shit-show it would make my life at times, that doesn&#8217;t excuse being a bad friend.<\/p>\n<p>My childfree friends are just as busy as I am. <a href=\"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/10-ways-to-get-invited-to-childfree-parties\/\" target=\"_blank\">If they can make time in their lives<\/a> to talk to a work-from-home mom who has no gossip or anything particularly entertaining say, I can sure as hell make time for them. Okay, I&#8217;m still entertaining &#8211; but you get my drift. I was way more entertaining when I was a 20-something bartender living in Brooklyn. They don&#8217;t care &#8211; they still make time for me and love me. In turn, I try not to make them feel like they take a back seat to my mom-life constantly.<\/p>\n<p>I know this video was made for moms &#8211; and moms have every right to commiserate and enjoy it. But I hope enjoying it doesn&#8217;t make anyone fail to see that it&#8217;s a crappy way to be. It&#8217;s okay to be in a new-mom haze for a while, but you have to snap out of it eventually. Your friends are probably squeezing you in just as much as you&#8217;re squeezing them in &#8211; the least you can do is schedule them during nap time so they can have your full attention.<\/p>\n<p>(photo: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=36OKi1DRgoA\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube<\/a>)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A young, adorable mom of two made a video to try to explain to her friends without kids why&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":21295,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[77],"tags":[4171,468,35117],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":77,"label":"mom fun"}],"post_tag":[{"value":4171,"label":"childfree"},{"value":468,"label":"mom friends"},{"value":35117,"label":"mom fun"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Guido","author_link":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/author\/mguido\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":77,"name":"mom fun","slug":"mom-fun","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":977,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":3,"count":448,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":77,"category_count":448,"category_description":"","cat_name":"mom fun","category_nicename":"mom-fun","category_parent":3}],"tag_info":[{"term_id":4171,"name":"childfree","slug":"childfree","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":4235,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":29,"filter":"raw"},{"term_id":468,"name":"mom friends","slug":"mom-friends","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":468,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":52,"filter":"raw"},{"term_id":35117,"name":"mom fun","slug":"mom-fun","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":77,"taxonomy":"post_tag","description":"","parent":0,"count":191,"filter":"raw"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125289"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21295"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=125289"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125289\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=125289"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=125289"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mommyish.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=125289"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}