Unbearable: Infertility Has Made Me Consider A Drug Free Labor
Having a child is usually a happy time in a womanâ€™s life. Unfortunately, as we wait longer to have children, infertility and trouble conceiving can become a part of the family making process. Unbearable addresses these difficulties.
My first experience with childbirth was pretty awesome, if I do say so myself. Labor lasted about seven hours. There were absolutely zero complications. I had an epidural that worked just the right amount, so I wasn’t screaming in pain but I could still feel what was going on. I realize that saying this makes me that annoying woman, but I just had a really good experience bringing my little girl into this world. So why on earth would I want to change it should I have the opportunity again? Well, it’s a little complicated.
When I had my daughter, I was a first-time parent. Childbirth was a little intimidating, even though I had been there with my sister. There’s always a concern about how your body will handle the pressure and the stress. Now, I feel more confident in what I’m doing. I feel like I know what I’m getting into. And after two years of waiting to get pregnant, I’ve had a lot of time to think about what exactly I might want to change for the next time around. I mean, a whole lot of time.
My labor and delivery was pretty great, but it was great in a “nothing went wrong” kind of way. It was great in a “We all came out of it healthy” kind of way.
When I read descriptions of home births like Josie Maran‘s, I am actually astounded by how magical the whole thing sounds. Honestly, if any woman has a “magical uterus,” doesn’t it sound like Josie Maran does? She describes her home birth like this:
â€œSoon I was sitting in a blow-up kiddie swimming poolÂ in my backyardÂ withÂ my midwives, family, and friendsÂ gathered around. My dear husband was in the pool with me, encouraging me, telling me that I was powerful, capable and beautiful.
My older daughter, Rumi Joon, was dancing around, checking on me, then running off to make me clover crowns. She even came out with a plate of cookies for my guests â€” always the perfect little hostess. When I was struggling, she gave me lots of kisses to help me through.
It was a beautiful day. I took in the view around me as each contraction came and went through my body. IÂ love being outside, so theÂ choice to give birthÂ in the great outdoors was a natural one for me.
Being surrounded by birds, plants, and my family was much better than being in a hospital with impatient doctors and lots of beeping monitors. A home birth was the perfect choice for me â€” thatâ€™sÂ why I did it again.â€