Twinning: I Never Got Caught Up In The Natural Birth Fantasy
Having twins can be the most amazing experience of your life. It can also cause you to wake up in the morning wishing you were someone else. Twinning offers an honest depiction of life with twins from a mom who tries to keep things somewhere in the middle.
Iâ€™ve come to think that twin births are like snowflakesâ€”no two are exactly the same. Thatâ€™s partly because twin moms have more exit options: we can have two vaginal births or one c-section, and some of us are even lucky enough to have one of each on that wonderful day!
When I was pregnant with twins, my initial thought concerning the babiesâ€™ eventual exit was that under no circumstances would I be offering two options. One route for both was all that would be made available. My next line of reasoning was that if one body part needed to be cut or stitched, I was going to volunteer my stomach for that duty.
Iâ€™m one of those women who never felt that â€œnaturalâ€ birth sounded all that naturalâ€”and even if I only had one baby my ideal delivery would have been a c-section. So one of the first things I wanted to make sure was that my doctor would be on board with a scheduled C. Luckily, he believed that c-sections are the safest way to deliver twins and said that would have been his suggestion anyway.
Just to be sure, I asked him, â€œSay you canâ€™t make the birth, youâ€™re tied up or somethingâ€¦can you put in my file that I want a c-section, that Iâ€™m not pushing, even if theyâ€™re both head down? Could you write that in?â€ He laughed and promised that he would be there to deliver my twins and nobody would force me to push anything anywhere.
The story of my twins c-section birth is fairly uneventful, as it all went according to plan. Iâ€™d never had surgery before though, and that morning I was so nervous about the whole thing my teeth were chattering while I waited for my spinal. I asked a nurse if I could have some Valium (all the epidural-refusers in the house gasp in dismay) but since Valium crosses the placenta, this wasnâ€™t allowed.
While getting my spinal, I was surprised by how painful getting a needle in my spine wasâ€”I actually cried. I was also surprised at how numb half your body can be while the other half isnâ€™t. Just for kicks, I kept trying to lift a leg or something. â€œCome on brain, you can do it!â€ But nope, it couldnâ€™t.
Once I was on the table, numb from the waist down and the doctors were working on me for a bit, my doctor said, â€œOkay Gloria, weâ€™re almost ready to begin.â€ I asked my husband to cover my ears, because I didnâ€™t want a play-by-play of what organ was being lifted from my body or whatever the hell I thought I was going to hear. What I really wanted was an out-of-body experience. Within 10 seconds I heard my doctor say â€œHere is your son!â€
Whoa! My doctor had been kidding me saying we were about to beginâ€”we were there already!