Childrearing

Twinning: Playgroups Are A Life Line

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Topics you’ll most likely hear discussed at a twin playgroup include: C-section recovery and scars, IVF and infertility treatments, hospital NICUs, premature birth, bed rest, OT therapy, getting two to nap at once, best gear for baby twins, and toys that two can play with at the same time…and these are all important topics for moms of multiples. If you’ve got it all together to the point that you aren’t looking for advice or information about twins, then by all means join a singleton playgroup for the reduced noise level alone.

As helpful and as sanity-saving as they are, twin playgroups are of course not without their drawbacks and potential problems. First of all, there’s not as many moms and twice as many kids. Space is often an issue when you have more than 10 toddlers in a group setting.

One mom in our playgroup lived in an apartment, so she didn’t have the room to host any playgroups. Once we had toddlers and walkers, we could only really meet at the homes of the two playgroup members who had huge playrooms. Also when our twins started walking and then running, any outdoor meet-ups at local parks needed to be at enclosed parks because twins tend to run in separate directions at that age for some reason.

Over the years the moms in my playgroup went through a lot together—regarding our twins, we have dealt with occupational therapy, first trips to the ER, lazy eye surgery, unexplained seizures, scarlet fever and ADD. Parents have died, husbands have lost jobs, and homes have been bought and sold. Over the years, some of us got full- and part-time jobs, and one even completed her PhD.

When my twins turned three and started going to preschool, I started going to playgroup less and less, but the rest of the group continued to meet weekly until everyone went off to kindergarten. One original member moved to India, another to Missouri, and two new moms became regulars along the way. The group has changed, but we still get together for wine nights, birthday parties, movies or brunch, and I imagine we’ll continue to do so, no matter how many years go by.

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