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I Refuse To Fly With My Entire Family At The Same Time

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This may seem very far-fetched to many to worry so much about being on the same flight. And, it is. But I cannot live with the thought that if our entire family traveled on the same flight and something happened. It would be a tragedy of the greatest degree, with grandparents and family and friends lives completely changed to lose an entire seven person family. My fiancé too has gotten on board with my way of thinking. His girls are old enough to travel alone (although we still send the nanny with them) but he now realizes at least they’ll still have a loving mother for his girls, if his plane goes down.

This isn’t ideal. I mean, any one of our three flights could go down (I hate writing all this morbid stuff!) even with the children and us, but at least there’s a better chance that the children will be taken care of (Because, how often do three planes go down in three days?) There are holes in this theory, of course. What if the children’s planes went down with one of the parents? But I do think it’s worse for an entire family to go down. Which is why I’m adamant that we don’t travel all together.

The one and only thing I demand of my daughter’s father, when she travels with him, is that he lets me know immediately when they land. And he does as soon as the plane hits the runway. And I sigh a breath of relief, as if I had been holding my breath for five hours, which I have. I do the same for him, when I travel with my daughter. And, yes, on the way back, there will also be three flights, leaving within two days, with our blended family. We will all be separated again. I just want my children, and my fiancé’s children, to have the greatest chance of survival. This may sound completely nutty, but at least I know I have put some thought into travelling, and that our children will at least have one parent, who will take care of them. Even now, if I travel with just my fiancé, I insist on different flights. This way, if something goes wrong, I know that our son will be taken care of by one of us, and his girls have a loving mother to take care of them, and my daughter has a loving father to take care of her. Yes, this is a completely morbid way of thinking, but for me, there’s no other alternative.

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