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Tori Spelling’s Advice For Her 21-Year-Old Self Includes Eyebrow Tweezing — Mine Is Different

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Spend time with your sisters. One day you will move far away and even though you will have emails and hour-long phone calls, spend time with your sisters. Even though you may not agree with everything they say, one day you will miss them more than anything. The same goes for your parents, and your grandparents. At age 21 it’s hard to imagine ever being without the people you love, the reality of people dying. In the future you will lie awake at night, missing your sister’s laugh, how she can make you spew water out your nose, your guts sore from laughing, mascara running down your face. You will miss your grandmother with a dull ache in your bones and your heart, wishing for one more afternoon listening to the stories and advice you found so boring and old fashioned at age21.

Volunteer. Find a cause you can believe in and do everything in your power to try and make the world a better place. Mentor young girls. Walk stray dogs from your local shelter. Visit cancer patients. Find something you are passionate about outside school, hobbies and work and get involved.

Take all advice, vampire women around you, listen to everything they say. You may not need to follow all of this advice, but listen with an open mind. Women, especially older women, know everything. They can teach you how to save money, take care of your body, clean your house, expand your mind, further your career. Men can give really good advice as well, especially men who have your best interests at heart, like your father or brothers. But women are magic. Greedily take their wisdom and scrawl it in lined paper notebooks and copies of books they have suggested.

Vote. Just that.

Appreciate where you are at age 21. Enjoy all of these drama and angst and indecisiveness and confusion that goes with being a young woman, but realize you are stronger, smarter and more capable than you could ever imagine. Push yourself, but do it for you. Travel anywhere you can, meet as many people as you can, surround yourself with friends who make you feel amazing. Challenge yourself.

There are only two clichés I fully believe. One is that change is the only constant in the universe, that everything is always changing, including ourselves. Life can change in an instant. The other is that times goes by too fast. One day I’m going to find myself giving this advice, plus a lot more to my own daughter when she is 21. I can only hope she listens a lot better than I did at that age.

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