‘We’re Working On It’ Means There’s A Problem – And Other Tips For Parent-Teacher Conferences
It’s Not All About The Grades
The social aspects of school are so important. For young kids, it’s a chance to see how they interact with friends and what you need to work on. “Ask if your child is a Leader, Follower, or Do-It-On-Your-Own kind of kid,” suggests Ms. Miller. From there, you can address the specific needs of your child. If they’re a leader, you can make sure that they are using that strength in a positive manner. If they’re a follower, it’s important to encourage independence. For young kids, “it can be as simple as letting them pick out their own outfit in the morning, but something to help them make decisions for themselves,” Ms. Miller suggests. And for a child who wants to do everything on their own, parents can find ways to encourage team work and interaction, even if it’s just in small doses.
Another important social issue: the type of friends they gravitate towards. So many parents want to know about their kids friends and if they are “good kids.” But teachers can’t answer direct questions about your kid’s classmates. It puts them in an awkward position. “You can ask what type of influences your child gravitates towards though,” offers Ms. Miller. “For most kids, it’s not a mix of the two groups. They either choose to be around the good kids who behave or the class clowns. You can ask which group your child decides to spend their free time with.” It’s a great tip for parents who are trying to find out more about the classmates we hear about every evening around the dinner table.