Childrearing

I Let My Daughter Drop Out Of Track Team To Learn About Teamwork

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teamwork for kidsIn more than nine years, my daughter and I have not had a fight. That is until she joined the track and field team at her school a month ago.

When I saw the schedule for the track and field track practices, I almost cried. Twice a week at 7:15 a.m.

“Dude, what were you THINKING joining this?” I asked my daughter. “You hate getting up early!”

But she thought it would be fun and didn’t know the practices were so early. Because I support my daughter, I was willing to get her to the practices — even though I too hate waking up early.

She made the first practice and liked it. She made the second practice and I could tell she wanted to tell me that she didn’t want to go anymore. By the third 7:15 a.m. practice morning, I tried to wake her up and she begged me to let her sleep.

“Listen,” I said, pulling the covers off of her, moodily. “You wanted to join and now it’s not about you. It’s about the TEAM.” I continued to rant. “You are letting the TEAM down if you don’t show up. Do you think I like to get up this early to take you? No! But I do it because you joined.”

My daughter jumped out of bed. She was miserable, but I hope she understood that she couldn’t be selfish when you are a part of a team.

A couple of weeks ago, I was furious with my fiancé when he allowed his daughter to miss a play rehearsal (his two girls and my daughter are in an after school play together) to hang out with her friends. I was on a high horse.

“When it comes to a play, you are only as good as your worst actor!” I tried to tell him. “She wanted to join the play and it’s not a dinky play. These children are serious about it. How can the other children know how to follow their lines if your daughter isn’t there to do hers?”

He didn’t seem to grasp the concept that, when it comes to teams or everyone working on the same project, you really are only as good as the worst one in the group. His daughter ended up hanging out with her friends.

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