I Lost All My Baby Weight And Now All I Hear Is I’m ‘Too Skinny’

81937629I’m so, so bored about hearing about women and baby weight loss. Tory Spelling admitted that she lied about how she lost her baby weight. Kim Kardashian is taking selfies of her post-pregnant self. I know that the entire world is continuing to watch Princess Katherine’s shrinking uterus, only so the press can come back at her, saying she’s now ”too skinny.” You know it’s going to happen. It happened to me.

God, how I hate those words, ”too skinny.”  I attended an anniversary party recently for a newspaper I used to write for where so many people just had to comment on how I was ”all skin and bones,” and that I was ”too skinny.” I was asked, too many times to count, ”How did you lose all that weight so quickly?” and ”I can’t believe you had a baby!” People were more interested in my body than they were my baby! Frankly, I thought it was all very rude. I think the only thing worse than people watching you lose baby weight, might be actually losing the damn baby weight. ”No,” I wanted to tell people, ”I’m not too skinny. My weight is now the exact same as it was before I gained that 70 pounds with my son, who was born”¦FIFTEEN months ago.” I felt the same sting after the birth of my daughter 10 years ago. Back then I couldn’t wait to get my pre-body back. It took me exactly six months, eating as little as possible, and working out three times a day to get rid of the 50 pounds I gained with her. And then I was told I was ”too skinny.”

After my son popped out, I didn’t doubt for a second that I wouldn’t lose that weight. I knew how to lose the baby weight, thanks to my first pregnancy. Again, it took exactly six months to get back to my natural weight. But you can’t win. If you don’t lose the baby weight quickly, then something is wrong with you. If you do lose the baby weight, then something is wrong with you.

I didn’t feel pleased with myself, at the party, when so many people couldn’t believe how ”skinny”  I was. I felt like a circus freak, instead of someone who had a baby 15 months ago. That’s more than a freaking year! Why are people so surprised when you lose baby weight? Trust me, being called ”too skinny” is as insulting as being called ”too fat.” First, genes do come into play. I come from a mother who is super skinny with fine bones. My daughter too takes after me and is super skinny, not because she doesn’t eat pasta, French fries, pizza like I do – but because she was born that way! To me, it was almost as if these people commenting on me wanted me to still have baby fat.

I often wonder why are people so shocked when a super model loses all her baby weight within three weeks. It’s like being shocked to hear that oh my god a rock star does cocaine! Or, for that matter, a super model does cocaine. They are super models because they are super skinny and even after having a baby, their enviable genes come into play. A celebrity losing baby weight quickly is really NOT all that shocking at all. They have trainers. They have chefs. I don’t admire Tory Spelling for ”˜admitting” about how she really lost baby weight. People seem to think, ”˜Finally! A celebrity who admits she ate air to lose weight,” as if she were the first woman in the world to lose baby weight this way. Let us not forget that she lied. She lied to people about swimming to lose weight. I really can’t respect that, even if you come out after admitting you lied to us. When people ask me how I lost the weight, I actually have always told them the truth. I cut out all carbohydrates and all sugar. I didn’t drink any alcohol. Once I got the go ahead to start working out, I did so, religiously. That, along with my natural frame, made me skinny again. Was it fun? Absolutely not. But why do people have to comment on weight at all? It’s not a compliment, after 15 months, to hear how ”skinny” you are, especially when you are at the exact weight you were before you got pregnant. Trust me, spending the night on the defensive, because people keep telling you that you are now TOO skinny, does not a fun night make. And, please, if you’re going to comment at all on my post-baby body, the least you can do is ask about my actual baby.

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