‘Horrified’ Mom Shared Sex-Shaming Questionnaire Her Teen Daughter Brought Home

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When kids go back to school, it’s normal for there to be a bunch of forms to fill out. Mom Heather Danks-Miller, of Roy, Utah shared the incredibly personal questionnaire her daughter Olivia brought home for a class. The class, called Adult Roles and Financial Literacy, gave a questionnaire to the students that is grossly inappropriate. After the students answer each question, they must tally up points. And the points reveal judgments that can only be described as sex-shaming.

Some of the questions include “Have you ever had sex without protection” “Have you had more than one abortion” or “Even though you are straight, would you go kinky to see what’s it’s like.” I’m assuming that in the case of this question, “kinky” means “gay.”

These questions are invasive at their most basic.

But the worst part is where teens would fall in the point system. They range from “A nerd-just where you should be at your age” to “Indecent” to “Hopeless and condemned.” Yes, you’re reading that correctly. This questionnaire is sex-shaming at it’s finest, and being given to teens. Olivia, who is a high school junior, feels uncomfortable answering the questions. And honestly, who could blame her?

These questions are not okay.

Sex-shaming teens is not a way to learn more about them as individuals. And according to Danks-Miller, portions of the class focus on “family values and morals.” While it’s fine to teach children about family planning, it’s not okay to judge them. And a questionnaire that mainly focuses on these behaviors is not a part of family planning.


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“I don’t think anyone, let alone a person in a position of authority should be asking those questions,” says Danks-Miller. She is absolutely right. Because this isn’t the kind of behavior a school should ask its students about. If teens feel comfortable with an adult, they should have the space to share. But a school asking these questions is singling out and sex-shaming the students who participate in some of the things on this list. No student deserves to shame for the sexual activity they choose to participate in. And praise for not engaging in sexual activity is equally wrong.

The questionnaire is also very dated; it’s been in circulation since 1964. Back then, abortions weren’t even legal. And no one uses the term “Angel Dust” anymore.

Ultimately Olivia decided not to hand in the questionnaire. Heather Danks-Miller got to meet with the high school’s two principals to discuss the use of the questionnaire as well. They told her that they were taking the questionnaire out of use, but allegedly it was still in use. According to Dank-Miller, the questionnaire is used for “self-realization on risky behavior.”

But really, it’s use is sex-shaming teens who are engaging in sexual behavior. If the kids choose to engage in this behavior, that is their choice and their business. No school or teacher has the right to shame them for their choices.

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