My Daughter Is ‘Cool’ And That’s Way Better Than Being ‘Popular’
Popularity is as confusing as an Excel spread sheet these days. No longer is it about just the students, itâ€™s about logistics too. My ten-year-old daughter, who goes to an all girls school, explained to me for more than twenty minutes what â€œpopularâ€ means at her school. I had so many questions, and I was stunned at how â€œpopularâ€ now works in these modern times. I asked her if the teachers were aware of this, and she said, “No. You canâ€™t tell them!â€ I promised I wouldnâ€™t. But I told her I was writing about it.
I will tell you that being popular these days, or wanting to be popular, is as confusing and difficult as figuring out, letâ€™s say, how a car engine works. (At least for me.) It starts at the beginning of the school year.
On the first week of school, there is something called, â€œacceptance week.â€ The teachers know nothing about this. During that week, the children decide what group they want to be in. There are four groups: â€œThe Populars,â€ â€œThe Cools,â€ â€œThe Losers,â€ and â€œThe Outcasts.â€
You can choose what group you want to be in. But once youâ€™re in that group, you are pretty much stuck there for the entire year. But what really shocked me was how, in pretty much every class or room in their school, â€œThe Populars,â€ have their special hang out. Even down to the locker rooms! (When I went to school, the â€œPopularsâ€ only hung out in ONE place.) They didnâ€™t mark their spots, like dogs, all over the school.
After their weekly swim lessons, â€œThe Popularsâ€ hang out on the Marble floor area to shower. â€œThe Coolsâ€ shower on the wood floor area, but I donâ€™t know about â€œThe Losersâ€ or â€œThe Outcasts.â€
As my daughter explained, the MOST popular of â€œThe Popularsâ€ take the private shower stalls. â€œBut how do people know who is popular and who isnâ€™t?â€ I asked my daughter. â€œYou just know,â€ was her answer.
Even sitting in rows, at assemblies for example or watching a sports team, there is a pecking order. â€œThe Popularsâ€ sit in the top row, â€œThe Coolsâ€ sit in the middle row, and â€œThe Losersâ€ sit in the bottom row. (Again, as for â€œThe Outcasts,â€ I really donâ€™t think they care, because they live in their own dreamÂ world, one that I would live in!)