Work Life Balance
SAHM No More: My SAHM Schedule Was Busy, But Doesnâ€™t Compare To My Working Mom Schedule
SAHM No More explores the the ups-and-downs of navigating a new world of parenting, transitioning from married stay-at-home motherhood to a full-time working, divorced motherhood. And there are a lot of adjustments being madeâ€”a lot ofÂ adjustments and not a lot of sleep.
My mother always used to say to me, â€œMake sure you find time for yourself, sweetie. Itâ€™s so important to take care of yourself, too. Not just the kids.â€ Being the mature and receptive adult that I am, I would usually roll my eyes at her and say, â€œWell, yeah. Obviously. Iâ€™m fine.â€
I was not the kind of mother who took the advice that dictated, â€œTake a nap when your baby doesâ€ or â€œAlways take time to pamper yourself with a bubble bath or manicure.â€ Screw that, I always thought. I have plenty of time to do what I need to take care of my children and take care of myself. No problem. I was so smug and certain that other parents just didnâ€™t schedule their time correctly, that other parents just werenâ€™t as efficient as I was. To sum up, I was an ass.
This is a little bit what my schedule looked like when I was a SAHM:
7:00 – Both boys jump on my bed around now, like warm puppies who want to play. In this case, though, these warm puppies just want breakfast.
7:30 – Walk the actual warm puppy. Question the intelligence of having a dog in New York City. Look at how excited the dog gets at every skittering squirrel, stray leaf, and errant plastic bag that we come across. Realize that I love the dog even though sheâ€™s somewhat simple.
8:30 – Walk kids to school. Stop and chat with other parents as we all head back home.
9:00 – Yoga. Feel amazing after.
10:30 – Take a shower, have coffee, answer emails.
12:00 – Think about what I want for lunch. Make lunch.
1:00 – Read the current issue of The New Yorker.
3:00 – Pick up kids from school, drop one off at piano, start homework with the other.
6:00 – Make dinner. Every food group is represented.
9:00 – Put kids to bed. Spend the rest of the night doing whatever I feel like. Really. Frequently this involved watching Friday Night Lights on Netflix. So, basically heaven.
With a schedule like that, itâ€™s no wonder that I never felt like I needed a break. I had a break built into my day. And even on the days when I was doing freelance work, I almost always managed to fit it in while they were in school. So, I wasnâ€™t really prepared for what my working mom schedule would become.