These Doctors Will Teach You How To Deal With Your Teen And The Dreaded Sex Talk
If I had to pick a theme for the book, it would probably be that we need to talk, we need to listen, and we need to remember that we were young too. Which of these do you personally feel are the hardest for most parents to remember to do?Â
Logan: That’s a tough one. I would say that we have a hard time listening (especially because we are afraid of what our kids might say) but going to back to our youth feels equally as difficult.
Jena: I agree with Logan, and I think some parents have a hard time initiating the conversation with their kids, especially regarding sex. Â I have heard from many parents who would rather “someone else,” like the pediatrician, tackle these “uncomfortable topics,” with their own children.
On Mommyish we often talk about how grateful we are that most social media didn’t exist when we were younger. How much of an influence do you feel social media plays on how we parent today and how our teens are growing up?Â
Logan: Social media has a tremendous amount of influence on how teens grow up (and by extension how we parent). It forces our kids to think (even more than already do) about how the world perceives them. It places tremendous pressure on self-image, specifically physical image. It was tough enough when you had to get dressed in the morning just for school, now you’re getting dressed (or a million other activities) for potentially the entire world. Jena and I are similar to the Mommyish community in that we feel blessed that we never had to experience adolescence in this day and age. We made plenty of mistakes; we never worried about them becoming public and following us around indefinitely.
Jena: Social media is hands down the biggest challenge facing parents today. Â We spoke with dozens of moms and dads who are completely freaked out over when/if to buy their children smart phones, the amount that their child is texting, the new apps that they can’t keep up with, and the list goes on and on. Â One thing we discuss in the book is the loss of interpersonal skills that so many parents feel their children exhibit. Â While writing the book, I started to notice the lack of communication among families. Â Families out to dinner, who weren’t carrying on conversations, that instead, were having a four-way text session. Â Parents need to look at their own habits when addressing social media…we all need to do better.
For you and Jennifer, what personally are the hardest subjects you guys have to speak about with your teens? is there anything they have asked you or you feel you need to speak to them about that you find cringe worthy?Â
Logan: To be perfectly candid, there isn’t much that I have trouble talking about, at least with respect to these issues. That being said, I do have a very difficult time talking about discrimination and prejudice; my kids can’t understand why that exists. For that matter, neither do I.