How I Plan To Tackle Racist Halloween Costumes With My Daughter
My daughter is 10 months old, and Iâ€™ll probably be the one to decide her costumes for the next couple of years. But soon she will come to me with her own ideas, and what if one of those ideas is an ethnic costume? If so, Iâ€™ll encourage her to choose something else. There are just too many unique and non-offensive options out there. Why should we bother with a costume that might truly offend?
I do realize that itâ€™s impossible to be 100 percent PC when dressing up for Halloween. Who knows, maybe the iconic French maid outfit genuinely pisses off Parisians. Or every time a trick-or-treater dons a white sheet, real ghosts gather in protest. But when you compare either of these costumes with the aforementioned Mexican Serape costume, I think itâ€™s pretty obvious which is the better choice.
Aside from being offensive to the race depicted, stereotypical costumes also leave an impression on children who see them. Children have a strong need to put what they see into categories.Â If their first exposure to a foreign culture is the way it is portrayed on Halloween, that image will stick (I abashedly admit that growing up I thought all historical Chinese people wore wide straw hats and baggy clothing because of costumes I saw in movies and on Halloween).
With this in mind, I see two great parenting opportunities with Halloween. First, racist costumes provide a great segue into a conversation about racial appropriation. If she doesnâ€™t understand, hereâ€™s how I could put it in perspective for her. We live in Missouri, but imagine weâ€™re spending Halloween in New York City. Weâ€™re out trick-or-treating and we see someone dressed in overalls and a straw hat, wearing fake rotten teeth. When we ask them what theyâ€™re dressed up as, and they say theyâ€™re â€œa Missourian.â€ This kind of costume, I would explain to her, tells the world that all Missourians are hicks with rotten teeth. However, if that same child had dressed up as Missouri Senator Claire McCaskill (I know Iâ€™m reaching, but bear with me), that child would be depicting Missouri in a non-stereotypical light.
And hereâ€™s the more ambitious hope I have: if racist costumes are so memorable, costumes that portray the positive side of a particular culture should leave just as strong an impression. If my daughter begs and begs to wear a cultural costume for Halloween, Iâ€™ll urge her to choose someone specific and admirable like Betsy Ross, Frida Kahlo or Pocahontas (the real version, not the Disney princess). Not only will my daughter learn something about history as she assembles her costume, but sheâ€™ll stand out against the worn-out clichÃ©s trick-or-treating beside her.
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