Aunties In My Big Fat Indian (And Hindu) Community Are Way Too Involved With My Pregnancy
I have to remind myself that there are busybodies in any culture, but being pregnant and dealing with the superstitious Aunties in my big fat Indian (and Hindu) community is sometimes more than even I can bear.
I donâ€™t mind the gender predictions â€“Â theyâ€™re harmless. According to my grandmother, if I suffer from acne or if I crave savory foods (yes and yes), then Iâ€™m going to have a girl. I wish my face didnâ€™t have to be examined at every family gathering but itâ€™s easy to shake off superstitions that have no basis in reality.
My mom is queen of the superstitions that impede on my lifestyle. Like the fact that Iâ€™m not allowed to cut my hair in case it shortens the lifespan of the baby. Iâ€™m pretty sure some obnoxious guy with a long hair fetish came up with that one.
Then thereâ€™s my momâ€™s aversion to The Walking Dead. Indians believe that watching something gross will result in a deformed baby. If I watch zombies, apparently Iâ€™ll birth a zombie. TheÂ converse of this is that Iâ€™m supposed to look at photos of beautiful babies so that Iâ€™ll have a beautiful baby. But the thought of inflicting cutesy Anne Geddes babies on myself is enough to bring my morning sickness back.
Then thereâ€™s my motherâ€™s sister, who had a dream last week that she was performing aÂ seemanthamÂ for me to celebrate and welcome my baby into the world. After she woke up she called my mom and kept grilling her about me possibly being pregnant but fortunately mom kept mum. Iâ€™m actually looking forward to the ceremony, which basically involves all the Aunties showering me with sweet and savory food, clothing, and blessings. But my nosy aunt can keep her dreams to herself!
My aunt also cautioned my mom not to buy anything for the baby before itâ€™s born as itâ€™s bad luck. Since Iâ€™ve suffered from a miscarriage before, I guess I donâ€™t mind this superstition, because it feels a little bit like jinxing myself, especially in my first trimester.