Gwyneth Paltrow is archiving her wardrobe for her 7-year-old daughter, Apple. “I’ve been saving my clothes for her since before she was born,” she reveals in the March 2012 issue of Harper’s Bazaar. That’s all fine and dandy until Gwyneth continues on with this nonsense:
I was like, I’ll bet you anything I’ll have a daughter, and she’ll be a really cool butch lesbian and be so above clothes, and I got a very clothes-obsessed child. So if she’s a lesbian, she’s a lipstick lesbian. She doesn’t like anything avant-garde at all. She likes anything that’s pretty, pretty, pretty or has a bow or a ruffle or is pink.
Stereotype much, Gwynnie? I’m assuming she was trying to be funny, progressive even, but her comments came across as ignorant and stupid. To suggest that there are two kinds of lesbians “butch” types who aren’t into fashion and pink-obsessed “lipstick” ones is just plain wrong. (Hi, is 1992 home?) It makes her sound like an ass.
I was thinking about this earlier today when, lo and behold, I came across this nugget from Blake Lively in the March 2012 issue of Elle:
I hope to have a few girls one day. If not girls, they better be trannies. Because I have some amazing shoes and bags and stories that need to be appreciated.
There now! Once again, I understand what Lively is was trying to say. I really do. But, like Gwynnie, her comment which I imagine is tongue-in-cheek has managed to offend many.
Here’s the thing: I’m not exactly the Appropriate Police, but even I know that stereotypes in general no matter how much they’re said in jest can be quite harmful. And we should rethink the way we discuss LGBTQ people, who have historically been persecuted, laughed at, dismissed. Sure, Paltrow and Lively meant no harm with their comments I get that but they have a responsibility not to blurt out such idiotic statements that, intentionally or not, just help promote stereotypes.
It’s not the example we want to be setting for our children (or, in Lively’s case, teenage fans). Truth is, if we want the next generation to be more open-minded, we need to be more careful when addressing groups of people in such a simplistic way.