Mommyish Poll: How Often Do You Have Sex With Your Partner?
“Guys, this is really embarrassing, but I’m down to having sex, like, three times a week,” a pregnant friend once told me during her second trimester. I was also pregnant at the time and, well, let’s just say I was going throughÂ a dry spell to go along with my dry heaving.
I later shared this tidbit with a mutual friend, who blurted out what I was secretly thinking but too embarrassed to admit: “Three times a week?! That’s me on a stellar week â€“ before children!”
Of course, pregnancy has the amazing ability to make some women friskier than ever, and the not-so-amazing ability to make others swear off sex forever. But what struck us about our friend’s comment was that if her dwindling libido meant sex three times a week, just how often was she having sex pre-pregnancy?
Most of us can remember a time â€“ long before our children took over our lives â€“ when sex was just a given, a no-brainer. That’s not to say there aren’t lots of parents out there who don’t still enjoy a daily romp in the sack. But there are just as many who have to schedule in weekly “date nights,” and even that doesn’t guarantee they’ll be getting any. Hell, I know women who go months â€“ some even years â€“ without action; the sad part is that they don’t even seem to notice or care ’til they actually sit down and think about it.
Needless to say, there’s quite a range when it comes to sexy time (or lack thereof). On this site alone, we’ve had one woman swear that having more kids improved her sex life, while another can’t remember the last time she had “hot” sex with the man she loves.
Where do you fit in? Take our poll and weigh in in the comments section below.
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