Mommyish Poll: Did You Find Out The Sex Of Your Baby?
Six months into her pregnancy, the fashionable Julia Restoin-Roitfeld does not know the sex of her baby â€“ and she has no intention of finding out. Her mom, former Vogue Paris editor Carine Roitfeld, is mighty impressed:
â€œ[Julia] doesnâ€™t want to know. Iâ€™m very proud of her, because me, I would not be able to do that. But you know, in a way, today you can know everything about anything, and to refuse to know I think is quite chic.â€
So apparently not finding out the sex of your baby is “chic.” Who knew?
Carine â€“ who prefers Madame over grandma â€“ also has no intention of baking cookies or knitting booties any time soon. “I don’t think it’s my thing,” she said with a laugh. Gotta lover her for telling her like it is!
But back to this whole gender thing. My friends are pretty split down the middle when it comes to finding out the sex of their baby. I personally was tempted to find out with both my kids but never did because I figured there are so few surprises left these days. But I know countless women who were dying to know if they were having a boy or a girl ASAP â€“ both for practical reasons and for psychological ones, too.
One friend, for example, always planned to have two children. So after she gave birth to a boy and got pregnant with her second, she decided to find out the baby’s gender during a 20-week ultrasound. “If it was a boy, I wanted to know,” she tells me, “so that I wouldn’t be disappointed.” Clearly, this is a woman who always wanted a little girl, though she was and still is beyond grateful for her two wonderful boys. “I just wanted to prepare myself, emotionally. I knew that this would be it and so if I was never going to have a daughter, I would rather find out in advance than right there on the table. It gave me time to come to terms with it all.”
I’ve also noticed that many couples are divided on whether or not to find out the sex of their baby. One pregnant woman I know, already mom to two boys, was so curious that she found out behind her husband’s back â€“ then feigned surprise when it was a girl (ha!).
Then there are those women who find out by accident because their doctor uses “he” or “she” to describe the baby in a way that’s just way too obvious. Sounds crazy, I know, but this has happened to many friends. (And, let me say, they were less than pleased.)
How about you? Did you find out the sex of your baby? Take our poll below and share why or why not in the comments section below.