I Told The Truth And My 4-Year-Old Doesnâ€™t Believe Me — But He Believes In Santa
Itâ€™s one of those things I didnâ€™t expect as a parent, but for some reason I just didnâ€™t feel comfortable lying to my first born about the Santa logistics. Â It just didnâ€™t make sense to me — how I was supposed to say he flew all over the world in one night, how he knew exactly what my kids wanted and exactly where they would be? Â Any other day of the year this was the man I was telling my kids to stay away from and never talk to, but call him Santa and it was supposed to all Â make sense. Â Well, it just didnâ€™t — not to me.
Last year I decided I would sit him down and tell him the truth, but it never actually happened. Â This year, my daughter is old enough to know about Santa and I got the sense she would love the fantasy of it all. Â So I was in a little bit of a pickle. Â I decided not to come out and tell my 4-year-old that Santa wasnâ€™t real but just to not give any answers I wasnâ€™t comfortable giving. Â I tried to beat around the bush as much as I could, never telling a single untruth or even stretching reality.
Unfortunately my son is not one for vague answers. Â Heâ€™s a very particular child. Â So when he asked me point blank â€œis Santa real?â€ I felt I had no choice. Â I said, â€œno.â€ Â Santa isnâ€™t a real person but he is a character — like the Bubble Guppies. Â He doesnâ€™t actually come to our house and if you tell him what you want he wonâ€™t remember for Christmas. Â Â But he represents everything magical and special about the holiday of Christmas and we can still talk about him. Â I felt good about my answer as my son sat there and digested what I said. Â He seemed content with my answer and had nothing else to say about the matter.
Then he came home and dropped a bomb on me. Â â€œMom, Santa IS real.â€
â€œOh, really? Â How do you know?â€
â€œI asked him at my school.â€
So he took Santaâ€™s word over mine. Â In the contest of Mom vs Santa, I lost big time. Â I canâ€™t say Iâ€™m that surprised. Â There are messages of Santa all over TV and the songs we listen to. Â Most of his friends believe.Â So when Santa showed up at his preschool, he took the opportunity to go straight to the source. Â That was all the proof he needed.
â€œSanta IS real, Mom,â€ he reiterated when I neither confirmed or denied.
I just nodded my head. Â I was filled with pride at this little boy becoming his own person, and I was humbled by the constant lessons of parenthood. Â I can tell him facts, but itâ€™s up to him to decide what he believes in his heart — about Santa or anything else in life.