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Pole Dancing Mom Practices In Front Of Her Toddler And Internet Loses Its S**t

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Screen Shot 2015-01-13 at 11.39.45 AMThe Facebook Judgment Brigade is in full swing after a woman who describes herself as “A Badass Breastfeeding, Babywearing, Attachment parenting, Pole dancing, Yogi Momma” posted a video of her pole dancing while her two-year-old daughter toddles around the room. Some are calling this bad parenting. I’ve watched the video (link below) and I think it is absolutely beautiful.

Honestly. I don’t look at this and see Ashley Wright teaching her daughter how to be a stripper. I see a woman who loves pole dancing (which can, in fact, be separated from the sex trade) and is showing her love for her body and what it can do in front of her little girl. I loved this video so much it actually made me teary-eyed.

Not everyone agrees, of course. Many residents from up on Mount Pious have come down to say that she isn’t wearing enough clothes and is setting a bad example for her daughter. Here are a few examples:

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I invite all of the people to kiss this woman’s magnificent ass.

If this was a video taken from inside a strip club, with a woman dancing for money while her kid was in a high chair on the side of the stage, then I too would have some serious questions about her parenting choices. But she isn’t. She is in her own home, dancing because she loves dancing. She isn’t barring her daughter from the room because there is nothing shameful about what she is doing. Her daughter is two-years-old – she doesn’t see this in a sexual light. She sees her strong and confident mother doing an activity she enjoys and that, by the way, looks like a heck of a lot of fun to a two-year-old.

As for criticisms that she isn’t wearing enough clothes, I walk around naked in front of my kids all the time; a bikini is a huge upgrade in the clothing department. I see nothing wrong with what she is wearing, especially since I can’t imagine that pole dancing is particularly easy in a pair of sweatpants. And honestly, even if she was naked I would have no problem with it. She is sending her daughter a message about self-love by being comfortable in her own skin. And I would take that any day of the week over the message that most mothers send their daughters, which is to be ashamed of their bodies.

But Wright said it best in her response to the controversy on her Facebook page:

It is no surprise that many are put-off, and even more confused, by this shared display of divine femininity,sensual acceptance, power and open, unapologetic love for self and for my child.

I do not expect everyone to understand me nor my “parenting style” for progression is few for most. However, I will continue to share for those who seek the light that dwells within us.
If you do not find comfort, peace, freedom, courage nor love here, then my videos, this message and this movement is not for you. And that is okay.

Preach.

This isn’t a sexual act. What you see is freedom, power, and a whole lot of love.