I Went To A La Leche League Meeting Once And I Never Went Back
Two weeks after my daughter was born, I hurried through snow and wind to attend my cityâ€™s La Leche League meeting for the first time. I wasnâ€™t having much trouble breastfeeding; mostly I thought it would be nice to get out of my new mother bubble and meet some people.
When I lugged baby through the door in her car seat, I knew instantly that I didnâ€™t fit in here at La Leche League. The two other mothers had a seasoned maternal glow about them. One of them wore a sleeping newborn boy in a sling while her 4 year-old trotted around the room. The other had 1-year-old twins (only one was present at the meeting, rosy-faced and walking). The leaders were textbook Earth mamas — long hair, no makeup, soft voices. The one in charge of this meeting wore her Cherubic baby in a Bjorn. The other sat and knitted.
I instantly lifted my daughter out of her car seat and cradled her, fearing the other women were already judging me for not wearing her in a sling. I wrapped baby tighter in her blanket, worrying they thought me an unfit mother because Iâ€™d dressed my newborn in a short-sleeved onesie in the middle of December. I was just so damn hot all the time. Postpartum hormones and nerves were waging war on my internal thermostat, plus Iâ€™d put a blanket over baby and her car seat, so it just seemed cruel to dress her in anything warmer. But the newborn next to me wore fleece pajamas as he slept on his motherâ€™s chest, and obviously he was content as could be. Shit.
I chatted awkwardly with the mother of the sleeping boy until the meeting started. Bjorn lady introduced herself and attempted to get through her agenda, with frequent interruptions by the outspoken mother of twins. Meanwhile, the 4-year-old of the woman next to me turned into Loki the God of Mischief, running around the room and attempting to rifle through everyoneâ€™s purse. His mother did no more than deliver a soft, â€œno,â€ on occasion, to which the kid (of course) stopped for two seconds before sprinting around the room again.
When the time was right, I asked my only question about breastfeeding: how do I cope with oversupply? I quipped, â€œI mean, donâ€™t get me wrong, itâ€™s great having massive boobs for the first time in my life, but…â€
Nothing. Not even a blink. Not even a chuckle from Bjorn lady, whose robust laugh had, until now, been loud and frequent. What? It was okay for us to be sitting there, whipping out our tits to breastfeed in front of each other, but we werenâ€™t supposed to say â€œboobsâ€? She answered my question thoroughly, explaining that she, too, had oversupply issues. She and the other leader were very helpful, but I still couldnâ€™t help feeling out of place by their complete lack of reaction to my cheesy joke.
When Bjorn lady had covered her main points and opened up the room to the general conversation, the mother next to me finally attempted to explain her rowdy son, â€œsorry. He just weaned last week.â€ Heads nodded and sympathetic â€œohhhhs,â€ issued from everyone. Because, obviously, that makes it all okay for your 4-year-old to act like a toddler.