Pregnancy
My Doctor Wouldn’t Tie My Tubes Because He Said I Was Too Young — And I Have 3 Kids
Or at least that’s what I wanted. Apparently the hospital and my OBGYN had a different idea.
When I brought the subject up with my otherwise wonderful OBGYN for the first time, I was eight months pregnant with King Baby. He listened intently as I told him about how I always wanted three kids and no more and that my husband agreed. I told him I thought long and hard about the decision, and that I wanted to get the old baby strings snipped. He sat for a moment and then was basically like “NAWWW, ain’t gonna happen.â€
Okay, he was a little more professional than that, but that’s the gist of it.  Not only was it against the policy of the hospital, but it was against his PERSONAL policy to give any woman under the age of 35 a tubal ligation (aka “childproofing the baby shuteâ€). Yup, even if that woman has three kids already and is positive she wants to make her uterus a recreational fun-zone only.  The hospital itself said that even if I found a doctor willing to do the procedure, I would have to wait until age 30 to have it done there.
The worst part of this was the condescending lectures that I received from the various people I spoke to. Don’t get me wrong, I understood their intentions when I was still pregnant and hormonal. Perhaps I wasn’t in the best position to make a decision at that moment. But this went on well after I gave birth. As if I wasn’t the best person to make that decision. And boy did I hear some fucked up shit.
“What if you change your mind?â€
First off, I want to point out that I am not a woman of wealth and leisure, and I don’t think I need to tell Mommyish readers that having even ONE child is expensive as hell. So yeah, I don’t think I’m gonna be springing to have more kids any time soon (as in EVER). Three college funds is enough ambition for me.
“You don’t know how you’ll feel in 10 years!â€
Yes, I know exactly how I will feel. Awesome. In 10 years (from now) I will have three teenagers who will be driving me bananas. I think adding a screaming baby to the mix will be the last freaking thing on my mind. But thanks for that!