I Had No Problem With ‘Hot Mom’ Maria Kang Until She Admitted To Struggling With Bulimia
When “hot mom”Â Maria Kang asked the question What’s your excuse? in regards to how fit we’re all managing to keep ourselves – I wasn’t pissed. I thought, Good for you for looking that awesome after three kids. My excuse is – I don’t have one. I need to try harder to lose my baby weight. I need to eat less an move more. Whatever. I’m just happy I haven’t slipped back into any of the unhealthy rituals I had when I struggled with an eating disorder for over a decade.
That’s why I was pretty annoyed when Kang revealed that she struggled with bulimia and spent years trying to sculpt her “chunky” frame. Why would someone that had been through the hell of disordered eating attempt to shame women about their own frames? Not cool.
Looking back on her days as a bulimic, on her blog she writes: ‘It was a horrible habit.
‘I felt like I had no control over myÂ mind and I had such self-defeating thoughts. I felt a variety of emotions, sadness, guilt, emptiness.’
What’s your excuse?
Well, mine is – I’m so sick of talking about or thinking about my weight.
I grew up with a body-obsessed mother who was constantly nagging other family members for being overweight. She purchased every diet plan on the market – and not for herself. I wasn’t overweight as a child, but my utter paranoia that I would become the brunt of this constant weight loss conversation that was happening in my household, resulted in my struggling for years with an eating disorder. The thinner I got – the more praise I got. I was weak. I was sick. I had ulcers and cavities from vomiting constantly – but no one seemed to notice or care. Isn’t she gorgeous!
I honestly can’t tell you what snapped me out of this behavior because I was never treated for it. I can tell you that I have never been as thin as I was when I wasn’t actually digesting things. Go figure.
Compounding the problem of a terrible body image with an eating disorder is a really sad place to be. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. The fact that she has been there and still feels comfortable posing questions like, What’s your excuse? is – a little mean.
I think it’s great that Kang is able to look so amazing. Â But I think she also knows there are many, many excuses why we all don’t walk around with perfect bodies. And some of them have nothing to do with not working out enough.