being a mom

How Often Do the Happiest Couples Have Sex?

By  | 

This subject is still kinda taboo to talk about. No one really goes on social media and announces how many times they had sex. And all of us assume that people in happy partnerships do it all the time. That idea that being active a few times a week is what will signify a strong bond. We see the TV shows and typical movies do the same thing: that intimacy time decreases and then that signifies the couple is headed for splitsville. You find yourself wondering how often do the happiest couples have sex? Is what you’re doing typical? Are you at risk of your relationship going kaput?

Since we can’t get a lot of information on social media, science has answered how often do the happiest couples have sex and the result isn’t expected.

how often do the happiest couples have sex

“We have lots of expectations about how relationships are ‘supposed’ to look,” Dr. Logan Levkoff, who received her PhD in human sexuality, marriage and family life education from New York University, told NBC News. “Many times, this fairy-tale model doesn’t mimic our lives or our realities.”

And that seems very true because it looks like happiest couples aren’t having sex as much as we probably think they are.

A  study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior in 2017 discovered that the average adult has sex about 54 times… a year. That’s about once a week. Certainly not three times a week like we’re often told is the secret to being in a happy relationship. And it looks like that number has fallen since a similar study was done in 1990.

Another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science discovered that the gold standard for happiest couples are those that have sex once a week. That study surveyed over 30,000 Americans for over 40 years and that’s the golden number they found. ” Couples who had sex more than once a week didn’t report being any happier, and those who had sex less than once a week reported feeling less fulfilled,” NBC News reports.

So, there you have it — it’s not some crazy number that you have to achieve. Also, it’s important to keep in mind that this is just an average. Also, there are other ways to be intimate vs just having sex.

Are you surprised by the number? Let us know in the comments.

Also read:

(Image: iStock / Wavebreakmedia)