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Little Girl’s Note To Friend Proves Racism Is Learned, Not Inborn‏

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When parents throw a birthday party for their child, it is stressful enough worrying that not many kids will come or worse, that no one will come. Aside from them being sick or injured, thinking of your child being left out or bullied is basically the worst. At the very top of that pyramid of worry is your child being the subject of blatant racism. In a story that is hard to imagine happening in 2015, we have a little girl sending a disturbing note to her classmate telling her why she can’t come to her birthday party — because she’s black and her father won’t let her. Absolutely unreal.

From WREG news, we have a story of parents being racist and making no effort at all to hide it from their child and of course, to spread their hateful views. The fact that this little girl knew the reason why her father did not want her attending her friend Harmony Jones’ birthday party is deplorable and horribly sad. Here is the note:

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In case you can’t understand it, it says:

“Maybe I will not be able to go to your birthday sleepover because my dad will not let me go because you are black. Not trying to be races (sic), buy my mom let me go. Happy Birthday.”

It is easy to feel for both of these little girls. One just had her heart broken by a reminder on paper that there are still people in this country that will think less of her simply because of her race. The other is being raised by a parent who thinks it perfectly acceptable to not only hold racist views, but to pass them down to his child. Anyone who thinks racism is “over” is clearly mistaken. It’s so shameful but this is still very much happening, as you can see.

For his part, Harmony’s father is handling it quite well.

“It angered me a little bit, it hurt me that my 10-year-old girl had to deal with this, and I myself never thought I would have to deal with this,” he said.

Jones says he doesn’t blame his daughter’s friend.

“I guess us as parents need to be more aware and conscious about what we teach our children,” he said.

Anyone ignorant and cruel enough to stop their child from attending a birthday party because of race is probably not concerned with what they teach their children, sadly. And of course, he can’t blame his daughter’s friend because she can’t help what her father is teaching her. Hopefully, a lesson can be learned here if the parent with racist views can see how he is hurting his child and also, her peers.

At least Harmony’s party reportedly went off without a hitch, even though she knew why one of her friends was not able to attend. I think her story being told this way is a positive thing, though. It can remind us all that there is still work to be done in the way of discrimination and racism and that we all still need to be active in teaching our children love and acceptance. It sounds like the Jones’ are doing a fantastic job with their little girl. I hope her friend has people in her life who can try to mitigate the awful things her own parent is telling her at home.

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