Foster Care 101: Tips For Successful Foster Parents
Foster care isn’t adoption.
One of the foster mothers had a very adamant message on this subject, “To anyone who tells a couple looking to have their own child or adopt that they should consider fostering first, I would like to tell them to stop speaking. Now. Seriously just stop talking. These things are not interchangable and you’re going to create a horrible situation for the parents and the children.”
Our social worker Lynn* clarified, “You can’t walk in to these situations thinking that you’re adding a permanent member to your family. Sure, that happens sometimes. But it’s rare. The majority of the time, you’re going to have children for a short amount of time and then they’re going to leave. You need to be prepared to accept that.”
CPS agent Ashley* added, “The goal of Child Protective Services is family reunification. That’s what we’re looking for. If you’re looking to adopt permanently, you need to go straight to that avenue. Otherwise, there will be a lot of heartache.”