I Feel Like A Crappy Parent And It’s Facebook’s Fault
The more I think about it – pretty much every, single time I’ve felt like a shitty mother it’s been Facebook’s fault. EveryoneÂ incessantlyÂ sharing all of the crafty things they do for their children makes me feel like a total loser parent. And don’t even get me started on Pinterest. Five minutes on that thing and I’m convinced we live in a hovel and I am the worst mother, ever.
Before social media, we didn’t actually know what was going on in other people’s houses and families. We just did what we did and assumed everyone else was doing the same thing. Guess what? They’re not. On Halloween they’re making black licorice fondant spider cupcakes with glowing eyes. You’re giving your kids candy corn. You suck.
I’m always the one giving new mothers the “just relax” advice. I’m convinced now it’s because I want some moms to join my ranks – to not be perfect at everything they do. Yes I’ve stopped judging parents. I’ve had to. Parenting has totally kicked my ass. The truth is it makes me feel better to see that there are moms and dads out there that can be just as flustered and confused as I can. It’s comforting. While I used to stand in a state of shocked disdain, now I’m looking on thinking, Yup. It’s hard isn’t it?Â
I’m really going to try to stop being so hard on myself and start looking at the photo evidence of parental perfection on social media for what it may just be – the photoshopped version of real life. I just know behind the tray of fondant spider cupcakes, there’s a toddler having a sugar-high comedown and destroying some glowing eyes while refusing to eat dinner.
Well, I hope so anyway.