Don’t Use Your Childhood Issues As An Excuse To Emotionally Abuse Your Kids
Yes, I watched Extreme Guide To Parenting, again last night.Â I am a glutton for punishment. Each week it’s becoming clearer and clearer that all of these “extreme” parents are simply saddled with issues from their childhoods and trying to right the wrongs of their upbringing through their own kids. Which is sick, if you ask me.
Our latest installment of I was ignored/ nobody loved me as a kid so I’m going to treat you like shit, comes fromÂ Darlene, a mom so obsessed with making her daughter the “total package” she incessantly rides her about her appearance and makes her feel small. It’s as if she wants her teenaged child Bianca to have body and self-esteem issues. There was another family highlighted as well, who pushes their nine-year-old to make weight in her Jiujitsu class and forces their kids to stay in a plank pose when they don’t listen – but that family made me too sad to even write. So back to Darlene.
Darlene is a mother of Â three. Her older two children “have arrived” as far as she’s concerned. One is a successful dancer and one is moving toward a successful singing career. Her third and youngest, Bianca, is already a working journalist and by the end of the show we learn she has been accepted to an Ivy League school. This is not enough for Darlene, who at the beginning of her segment insists,
Out of my three girls, Bianca needs the most work. It”s Bianca’s turn. She’s on deck.
“Needing the most work” translates to a makeover and a trip to the salon to rid Bianca of her natural, thick, black hair. There are endless passive-aggressive interactions like this one:
Mom: Are you going to get ready to go?
Bianca: I’m ready now.
Mom: You’re going to wear what you have on? Scrunch-face of disapproval.
Darlene is constantly saying things like, “She needs to take more time on herself and her appearance so when she walks into a room she stands above the crowd.”Â She has a totally smart, well-adjusted daughter and she’s trying to drive her to be insecure about her looks. I don’t understand this woman.