I Spend 20 Hours A Month Waiting Around For My Daughterâ€™s Extracurricular Activities
Extracurricular activities kids, goes like this.Â On Monday evenings, I wait one hour during her singing lessons. On Thursdays, I wait an hour and a half for her play practices. On Friday nights, I wait an hour and a half for her ballet classes at the National Ballet School and on Sundays, I wait another hour for her dancing classes at the National Ballet School. Thatâ€™s five hours a week I generally sit in my car outside whatever studio sheâ€™s at.
And, no, I donâ€™t think sheâ€™s over-programmed. She loves this shit, but five hours a week in my car (which is where I usually wait) over a month is 20 hours a month in my car, and thatâ€™s 20 hours I could be productive doing something that doesnâ€™t include playing Boogle on my iPad while waiting for my daughter. Thatâ€™s a lot of time for me to be sitting and waiting and pretty much doing nothing while counting down the minutes, thinking, â€œIs there anything I can do right now aside from playing Boogle?â€
The problem with her singing lessons is that itâ€™s only an hour. Yes, I can sit and watch every week but trust me, after hearing the group sing the same songs that they will perform in concert, it gets a little tedious. The same with her play practices. I donâ€™t want to watch every week, because by the time the play production actually comes around, Iâ€™ll be bored out of my mind when I actually see the play.
Her ballet school is located in a somewhat shady part of town. When it was light out at night, I would go for walks, but Iâ€™m not feeling too comfortable doing that when it gets dark at six p.m. And there is nothing, and I mean nothing, around that school to do. (There is one coffee shop. But I donâ€™t need coffee at seven p.m. at night.)
The school is too far from my house to go back home and come back. Iâ€™m not a very patient person. Iâ€™m the type that will get my hair dyed one day and then go back at a later date to get it trimmed because I canâ€™t sit in the same place for more than two hours. Same goes for manicures and pedicures. Unless they are doing my feet and my hands at THE SAME TIME then I will go back twice.
The problem with extracurricular programs is that they are either too long or too short. I find this with birthday parties too. The hour ones I can sometimes deal with if I know other mothers and can sit and chat with them. But at some of the programs, I donâ€™t know anyone. So I do what I can to kill the time.Â I bring a book. I bring magazines. I bring my phone and call friends. But in the back of my head Iâ€™m just counting down the minutes, even seconds, until I know my daughter will be done and I can get back home.
Waiting for your child in an extracurricular activity is like having a newborn and going on endless walks. You actually have no where you need to go, but you end up at a drug store just killing time because there is nothing else to do.
My grocery shopping is done on the weekends. Itâ€™s too fucking cold to go on walks. I find that I really donâ€™t ever need to DO anything when Iâ€™m waiting for my daughter. And during the hour classes, which fall generally during rush hour, I canâ€™t really do anything.
I guess I could make up chores â€“ hey you could never have too much toothpaste! I could buy another tube! â€“ but then Iâ€™d just be spending money that I donâ€™t need to spend and come on, buying toothpaste is possibly as boring as just sitting in your car waiting for your child to be done with their classes. Like I said, thereâ€™s never any point in going back home after dropping her off, because by the time I got back home, Iâ€™d just have to leave again.
So, yes, Iâ€™m getting really good at Boogle on my iPad. But, god, waiting is such a waste of time. And the worst of it, is that it makes ME feel lazy, even though Iâ€™m the one driving her to all these places and making sure she gets there on time. Thatâ€™s 20 hours a month, my friends, that I could be doing something productive. But at least I can say my high-score is 156 on Boogle!