Excerpts From ‘The Sex Diaries Project’: The Secret Sex Lives Of Parents To Young Children
New York Magazine‘s “sex diaries” once provided New Yorkers with a little window into the sex lives of complete strangers. They were weekly notes of people encompassing all sorts of lifestyles and relationship choices. Writer Arianne Cohen started the editing diaries at New York Magazine and expanded the project into a book: The Sex Diaries Project: What We’re Saying About What We’re Doing.
Reading the intricate details of a person’s sex life is fascinating on many levels. It’s a method of voyeurism that requires little work on the part of the reader, while allowing a window into habits and activities that may be mundane to some and outrageous to others. It’s also always tinted by the writer’s self-perception and allows the reader validate his or her own choices or take the temperature of a current relationship.
That’s part of why New York Magazine’s “sex diaries” went from a one time assignment for writer Arianne Cohen to a project encompassing over 2000 diaries, a packed website and the new book, out this month.
In honor of Valentine’s Day, Arianne has allowed Mommyish to publish a few short excerpts from The Sex Diaries Project: What We’re Saying About What We’re Doing.
We’ve chosen three days in the lives of parents to young children, to demonstrate exactly how often a few parents are bypassing small children to get some alone time and what they have to say about it. Are these outrageous or similar to your own lives? Let us know in the comments.
The Upstanding Schoolteacher Who Would Like Some Triple-X Time
32, Ouachita Parish, Louisiana
8:00 a.m.: First morning of summer break, and my wife continues our tradition of a good morning blowjob and breakfast. With a start like this, the stack of grading is hardly daunting at all.
1:15 p.m.: Damn the French and their cinema. Watching a movie, and the last scene has me missing my wifeâ€™s bottom, giving it a squeeze, but sheâ€™s off shopping.
4:18 p.m.: In passing I touched her ass while she cooks. Such a lovely thing, a womanâ€™s ass. I reflect over the fine memories I have of my wifeâ€™s ass.
6:00 p.m.: I doubt that I masturbate more than five times a year. Since January, however, that number has increased and Iâ€™d bet Iâ€™ve masturbated more in the last five months than in seven years of mar- riage. A couple times Iâ€™ve done it in front of her. She masturbates fairly frequently herself and has throughout the marriage. Itâ€™s helped me be more attentive to her when we do have sex. With three young kids and a newly pregnant wife, weâ€™ve remarkably been able to give each other some enjoyment twice or thrice a week.
9:02 p.m.: An endless graduation ceremony has drained my libido. I rehash the horror to my wife as she bathes.
10:06 p.m.: Conflict. My wife volunteered me to babysit the diffi- cult nephew, along with my kids, tomorrow while she and her sister attend a lingerie party. So no sex.