Jesus Freak: Don’t Ask God To Make Your Kid Pretty
To me, this motherâ€™s love for her daughter warms my heart. I have nothing to say to judge her parenting because I am not in their relationship; itâ€™s not my business. I can provide my two cents in how this attitude applies to my own life.
While I think it is important to share your beliefs and values with your children as you parent, I am still rubbed the wrong way when parents overspiritualize everything. This could just be my own experience, yet I also see it in my husbandâ€™s family and in many other Christian families we know.
This mother had a wonderful wish for her daughter: to have a healthy body image. She even went so far as to admit that she prayed selfishly for her daughter to be pretty. While Iâ€™m sure we can all agree that a prayer like that is silly and selfish, I still believe it is doing a disservice to a young girl to overspiritualize very real body image issues.
I remember this many, many times when I came to my own mom and dad for advice. I would pour my heart out and ask them to help me with something personal in my teen life, and they would inevitably say, â€œJust have faith. Give it to God. Pray about it.â€ WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN? I have a strong relationship with God today, and I still donâ€™t know.
I would have appreciated a heart-to-heart talk with my parents whenever I needed them the most. There are members of my family that still slap a â€œGod labelâ€ on any conversation just to make it spiritual, even when it doesnâ€™t apply. But as a parent, you canâ€™t expect God to parent for you. There are times when you are going to have to teach your kids real-world concepts, whether about having successful relationships or a healthy body image.
This mother in the example is truly loving, no doubt about it. I can only speak for myself when I say that I wouldnâ€™t approach my kids in the same way. Both she and I recognize that itâ€™s silly to pray for God to make your kidsâ€™ lives easier. But thatâ€™s where the parent comes in. Itâ€™s your job to teach your kids step-by-step how to deal with struggles and come out better for it. You can teach your kids about God and religion, but you canâ€™t pass the buck. God canâ€™t raise your kids for you.
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