Jesus Freak: Don’t Ask God To Make Your Kid Pretty
Jesus Freak:Â I am a Christian mom who was raised in a fundamental Christian home. I have questioned my beliefs and have come to love myself and God on my own terms. I’m raising my kids the same way.
I think we have all been guilty of praying selfish prayers before. I know I have. Most of the time, my prayers are not very Mother Theresa-esque; they are more often along the lines of getting what I want when I want it so that I donâ€™t have to experience anxiety or unpleasant life circumstances.
Itâ€™s so easy to transfer this attitude to the way I parent. I have the same prayers for my kids as I do for myself, many times. God, please make them happy and healthy and safe. Donâ€™t ever let anything bad happen to them because it would upset me too much, and it would make their lives hard.
God forbid I ever step outside of myself and think about how beneficial it can be to struggle, personally and for my kids. I can definitely recognize that there is something wrong with wanting to smooth every bump in the road to make your childrenâ€™s lives perfectly easy. Iâ€™m pretty sure this phenomenon has a name, and itâ€™s called â€œsnowplow parenting.â€
I came upon a blog that expresses, very honestly, this sentiment. Iâ€™m not bashing this blogger at all because I do understand what itâ€™s like to pray selfishly, and I appreciate her honesty. I also have to say that I 100% believe that God cares about every single thing that I care about. In that respect, no prayer is a selfish prayer, but you canâ€™t necessarily count on God to grant your request for a new car. There are some things you have to do yourself.
The blogger talks about praying to God to â€œmake her daughter prettyâ€ so that she wouldnâ€™t have to struggle with the same body image issues she did:
Ever since I can remember, Iâ€™ve been the bigger girl. I outgrew my momâ€™s shoes in the 5th grade. I couldnâ€™t share clothes with my friends because they just didnâ€™t fit. I dreaded the scales at the doctorâ€™s office every. single. time.
It breaks my heart that I prayed for God to grant her with a tall, slender body and high metabolism. Ugh. I actually prayed that. I didnâ€™t want her to grow up and struggle with the same issues I have. But if my daughter doesnâ€™t dream about fitting into a size two pair of jeans, sheâ€™s going to dream about something else.
Again, I truly commend her for her honesty and her clearly loving relationship with her daughter. The blogger concludes with her current prayer for her daughter:
To my beautiful, precious daughter:
Whatever it is that dampens your spirit when you look into the mirror, please know this: God is bigger.
If you want to eat healthy, donâ€™t do it because you want to see a lower number on a scale. Do it because you want God to have power over food in your life.
If you want to live an active lifestyle, donâ€™t do it because you like how you look in tighter clothes. Do it because God can use a healthy person to serve in the Kingdom.