Quit Pitying Cameron Diaz Because She Is Proudly Childfree By Choice
While I technically canâ€™t identify with being childfree by choice since I have always wanted kids, I can identify with all of the annoying questions that people ask you again and again, thinly veiled as small talk. Before I was married, it was, â€œAre you seeing anyone? Is it serious?â€ Once my husband and I were officially married, the next set of questions began, â€œAre you thinking of having kids soon?â€
I totally understand that many of these questions are part of polite conversation. But there is also the other side of the coinâ€”where a person is asked multiple forms of the same question by well-meaning friends and family members, until it eventually makes them want to FREAK THE FUCK OUT at the thought of defending their lifestyle choices for the millionth time.
I canâ€™t speak for Cameron Diaz, but since she is an amazingly beautiful starlet in the public eye, I can only imagine that she gets this a lot. In an interview for the August issue of Esquire magazine, Cameron proudly admits what is really no oneâ€™s business but is quite obvious if you have a brain in your head: She is â€œchildless by choice.â€
â€œI like being forty-one,â€ admitted the actress. â€œI love it. So much sâ€“it just falls away. Fear, mostly. Itâ€™s the best age. Thatâ€™s when a woman knows how to work things, or she doesnâ€™t care about that anymore. You just stop being afraid. You donâ€™t worry about what men think. You just donâ€™t worry that time registers anything awful.â€
Perhaps this acquired fearlessness is why Diaz decided to share the reasons behind her decision to opt out of motherhood. Of course itâ€™s nobodyâ€™s business but Diazâ€™s, but her revelation just might quiet the endless commentary and speculation that come with celebrity status andâ€¦motherhood and potential motherhood.
I know there is really no reason to pity Cameron since she has an unnaturally beautiful face and a super fancy Hollywood life, but I can identify with the fact that it is annoying to feel scrutinized about whatever stage you are at in your life. Pre-kids, and before I even planned to have a baby, I felt itchy and judged whenever that question would come up, especially when posed by pregnant friends with a beatific smile on their face. Maybe Iâ€™m an insecure asshole, or maybe Iâ€™m just a normal person who experiences insecurity. It happens.
The point is that Cameronâ€™s childfree status is truly no oneâ€™s business, but she was kind enough to proudly share her message and put rumors to rest. She added, â€œItâ€™s so much more work to have children. To have lives besides your own that you are responsible forâ€”I didnâ€™t take that on. That did make things easier for me. A babyâ€” thatâ€™s all day, every day for eighteen years.â€
Only time will tell how the media reacts to this information, but I firmly believe that Cameron should be celebrated for her honesty. If you donâ€™t want children, then you shouldnâ€™t have them. Thereâ€™s nothing worse than choosing to have a child for the wrong reasons because I can tell you from personal experience that the child will definitely suffer down the road.
Cameron is smart. Cameron is proudly childfree. Cameronâ€™s uterus is nobodyâ€™s business.