My FiancÃ© Has To Regularly Rotate The Photo Of The Kids On His Phone
But, these days, there are not just photos on phone screens. In my house, because of this blended family of six, there are five iPads, three iPhones, and four laptops. Which means computers, iPads, and phones are being â€œcrackedâ€ into, at all hours of the day and night, so we can all have photos of ourselves up on every screen possible.
Itâ€™s such a small slice of life, this cracking in to go into the â€œsettingsâ€ and put up our own photo on my fiancÃ©â€™s iPhone.Â However, it proves that in blended families, sometimes itâ€™s the littlest things that can set off jealousy.
I admit I was inÂ fairy taleÂ land when we all started living together (his girls with us 50 percent of the time, my daughter 100 per cent of the time, and our son 100 per cent of the time) because everyone got along so damn well. Finally! My daughter had sisters! Finally, my fiancÃ©â€™s kids had another sibling to play with because â€œrealâ€ siblings get sick of each other. Then the baby came, and, yay! Everyone was so excited to have a brother!
But now, I can clearly see, even if the children canâ€™t voice this, who is jealous of whom and why. My daughter went, in just over a year, to living with me alone, to sharing her house with my fiancÃ©, two other children, and a new baby. She no longer is an only child. Sheâ€™s a middle child with siblings and now canâ€™t sleep in my bed every day. Sheâ€™s jealous of my relationship with my fiancÃ© and the fact that my time can no longer be spent just with her, because of the baby too.
His children are jealous of my daughter and all her fancy toys and also because they no longer just have â€œDad.â€ They have to deal with another TWO siblings (my daughter and their brother). My fiancÃ© gets jealous when I want to spend the night with my daughter alone and I get jealous too.
Over what? Iâ€™m not quite sure, but I do know that I WANT MY DAMN PHOTO ON HIS IPHONE sometimes.
I know this doesnâ€™t really matter, but now itâ€™s become such a part of our household routine that itâ€™s become somewhat of a game, like hide and go seek.
In one night, when all the kids are with us, my fiancÃ©â€™s iPhone photo could be changed 12 times. So, yes, why doesnâ€™t he just change his password? Because his daughters like to text their friends and need his phone and we donâ€™t really believe in hiding things. Why donâ€™t we have one family photo â€“ of ALL of us â€“ on his phone? We had a professional photographer come and take photos of all the children, but we donâ€™t have a photo of all of us together. (Try getting FOUR females to agree on a photo where we ALL look good.)
And even with this portrait of all the children, each child wants to sometimes be featured individually. ALONE!
Maybe it happens like this in all families. I wouldnâ€™t know. I do know that right now there are no kids around and that my fiancÃ©â€™s iPhone is sitting right beside me. Take one guess what Iâ€™m about to do.