having a baby
It Is Not Rude To Add Your Registry To Your Baby Shower Invite
Iâ€™m no Emily Post, but I do like to write thank you notes. (Ahem, Theresa.) Most of the time I try to have regular, good old-fashioned manners: Somewhere between excusing myself when I burp and curtsying when a gentleman caller opens the door for me.
But there are a few etiquette no-noâ€™s that I feel so meh aboutâ€”the top one being the unspeakable rudeness of printing baby shower registry information on the baby shower invite.
I just donâ€™t see the big deal. This is probably because everyone I know in my white trash corner of Texas has always done it this way. But those more refined than I disagree:
Kate Zabriskie, an etiquette expert at Business Training Works, Inc., in Port Tobacco, Maryland, has very strong feelings on the subject. â€œAlthough many stores will give registry cards to include in the invitations, I still find that appalling,â€ she says. â€œNormally when the guest RSVPs she will ask where the girl has registered if she plans on giving a gift from the registry. The gift is from the giver and therefore totally up to her.â€
Still, meh. Another etiquette source at Real Simple suggests the following:
Many shower invitations do, but that can make the shower seem like a bit of a gimme-fest. Better yet, keep registry information off the invitation but feel free to pass it along if guests ask you for it. Or have them contact the honoreeâ€™s family or the honoree directly.
I have a hard time getting worked up about a â€œgift grubbyâ€ mom-to-be printing her gift registry information on her baby shower invitationâ€”because the alternative sounds like a lot of work. Yes, if the gift registry information is printed directly on the invitation, it looks like you are asking for a gift. But I think we all know whatâ€™s going to happen at a baby shower by now. (Spoiler alert: You will play stupid games, eat tiny sandwiches, drink nonalcoholic drinks, and eventually OPEN GIFTS.)
If I was invited to a baby shower that didnâ€™t have the registry information, I wouldnâ€™t have any problem purchasing the gift of my choice on my own. I would probably enjoy that very much. But I would not call the host of the shower to find out more about the gift registry. I would assume that the information was excluded for a reason. When and if I am invited to another baby shower with the gift registry brazenly printed on the invite, Iâ€™ll happily consult it when I buy. I love directions. Thanks for making my life easier.
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